I posted on here a few days ago under the thread ‘dinner dispute’. I wasn’t able to reply to all the helpful and supportive comments from you all as my account was playing up and I’ve now set up a second account.
I just wanted to say thank you. As I mentioned in my original post, the issue over dinner is the tip of a very large issues iceberg, and I’ve been putting up with a lot over the years.
I think I’ve known for a long time that the man I am with is not right for me. I changed a lot about me to suit what he wanted me to be and have regretted it since. But having 3 kids I’ve stuck with it because they love their father and for their sake it was worth putting up with so much. The problem with that is that over the years my confidence has taken a knock and I have doubted whether what I’m feeling is reasonable or whether I’m fact I’m just being ridiculous.
I’ve finally called an end to what little of a relationship we had left and have been villainised for it since with my OH going so far to say I’ve treated him as a meal ticket, even though it was his insistence that a good mother should be at home with the kids which caused me to halt my career and not try to juggle both a job and motherhood.
I’m sure there will be tough times ahead, but I’m thankful for the support I had from this community which finally knocked some sense into me that I was not being stupid, that I can’t continue as I had been and something had to give.
So thank you, and no doubt I’ll be looking for more advice in the future xx