Is this unusual behaviour?

[Rosebella215]

Would you be concerned if your partners ex wife posted old pics of herself in her wedding dress along with the music to their first dance song on their social media along with quotes implying it was his loss saying it should have been her wedding anniversary today, despite the fact they’ve been separated 3 years, this is the 3rd wedding anniversary they haven’t been together and I’ve been with him for 2 years?

We’ve had loads of issues over the past 2 years (too many to mention). It’s been quiet recently and I thought we were behind this but this behaviour has worried me! Just for the record she is blocked on all our social media platforms, it was a mutual friend of theirs that sent it across to my partner as he was taken aback by it!

What would you think?

She’s a weirdo
Ignore her

I would think shes looking for a reaction and the best one to give her is none. Ignore and carry on. x

I would think it’s a shame for her that she’s clearly not moved on and hasn’t yet accepted their relationship is over.

I’d also ask friends & family not to share anything further with you from her social media, she’s blocked for a reason, you gain nothing from knowing this is what she’s doing.

It's unusual yes, she's clearly not over him or moved on. I would be wary, especially as you say you've had lots of issues.

I would think she had a screw loose! Anyone seeing it will be thinking that she has major issues! She clearly hasn’t moved on! Just ignore her!

Ignore it. Its weird but maybe she really enjoyed her day.

I left my exhusand of 14 years 3 years ago. Apart from a few issues with him on the day (drinking far to much) the day itself was brilliant and a lot of people who attended aren't even with us anymore so sometimes we do talk about the day fondly.
I would never share photos of the day as it wouldn't be fair to my new partner, but sometimes when my what be anniversary day rolls around we have gone out a couple times with a group of friends celebrating that I'm not stuck in that hell anymore (with a alcoholic, drug using, cheating narc who got me so drunk I couldn't say no in the bed room and ran up thousands of pounds worth of debt ).

If she was sharing photos of her and her ex and talking about how much she misses him then that's a whole different thing.

Of course it's unusual to be so public about your sadness. Having said that, loads of people mark the anniversaries of the deaths of their loved ones on Facebook etc, presumably for the same reasons - they feel sorry for themselves and want a bit of attention.

I think the mutual friend is a bit of a stirrer - you didn't want or need to see that.

Maybe she thinks she looked amazing in her wedding dress and has great memories of the day?

(I looked fantastic in my wedding dress, shame about the prick I married. Yeah, I can relate )

It might be that she wanted to share the pictures/memory, but didn't want the out-of-touch "friends" congratulating her on her anniversary by mistake.

You should ignore it. It's none of your business. But she's entitled to feel sad about her broken relationship.

I wouldn't post stuff like that on social media and some people detail their whole life!!

Sounds to me like she's fishing for attention. Leave her to it.

It's only a concern anyway, if you don't trust your partner. Because what does it matter if she regrets the split, if he doesn't.

I think the comments about the ex being weird are awful. No one can expect the lady to be over a painful relationship in a certain amount of time. She's clearly hurting and that's really sad.

Thanks everyone for your responses!

Yes I guess everyone is different in what they post on social media. I too am divorced and had a very amicable split but wouldn’t dream of posting an old wedding pic, but each to their own!

Luckily my partner is amazing in that regard and ignores it all & doesn’t react and would have preferred not to see it. There’s been so much crazy tbh that he doesn’t even bat an eyelid anymore.

She’s bonkers.

I would be tempted to tell the friend who sent it that you/your partner appreciated being told but would rather not know in future.