Anyone ever heard of Schizoid personality disorder or Schizoid adaptations?

[HelpWendy]

Struggling to move through my husbands diagnosis and stuck in a marriage.

I’ve posted before..

I think you need to be more specific about the sort of information or advice you’re after. There’s nothing to go on in your post!

Thanks - yes sorry fairly vague.

TBH feel stupid posting again about my marriage. I just need to do something about it. But I feel stuck, by guilts, young kids and no obvious way to financially get myself out. Married to a kind man, who I have struggled to figure out since getting married. Turns out he isn’t really on the same wavelength and it’s taken a lot of figuring out and reading and consulting people was I mad or was I missing a trick.

Turns out he has very ‘strong’ schizoid traits. I’m wondering if anyone found themselves with a similar partner?

Not a partner, but my brother has BPD with schizoaffective disorder as well. A lot of drug abuse from a young age. (Both symptomatic and causal.) He can’t maintain relationships with anyone, I’m sorry. His behaviour is inconsistent. He knows better than everyone else. (Magical thinking.) Becomes obsessive/paranoid/dangerous/aggressive/entitled/grandiose/intrusive/excessive.
I have had to go NC as my kids and I are terrified of him. There is no recovery or getting better from this. Personality disorder symptoms can be partly treated, but most patients are not compliant. They promise the world, but find reality too boring.

I think that when we put a label on people, it can help us understand their behaviour and approach to things. But the long and short of it is really that he has a certain personality, behaves in a certain way, and sees the world through a certain light. We are all different and not everyone will go about life or see things in the way that we do. I think you should treat it in the same way you would any marriage- is this person compatible with you? Or are you too different? Can you leave? What are the implications of leaving? They are all the same questions you would normally be asking.