I’m hoping someone can give me a bit of advice before I blow my top.
My mum has always been a selfish woman, long story short she’s not a maternal woman and sees children, IMO as a cheque. There are 4 of us, 3 adult and one child.
During my childhood years my mother would ship us off to my grans at the first opportunity and for as long as possible. partners have always come trump to her kids and she’s allowed emotional and mental abuse to my younger sister from a partner. I don’t believe my mother can be alone which is why she allows treatment of the kids and also herself.
She makes poor decisions in her life and then plays the woe me card and expects sympathy all the time. This is financially related mainly.
Long story short, my youngest sister came to my house today, she’s been away at her grans for about 4 weeks. My mum has said she hasn’t been able to take any time off work so she had no choice, which is fair enough if it’s true (I don’t tend to get into conversations with my mum as i find them very irritating). She phoned my eldest sister earlier this week in floods of tears saying how she’s not spent any time with little sister during the 6 week hols and how rubbish she feels for that.
Back to today, she was meant to have sister back from her dads this morning, no one could reach her till 4 o’clock. My sister wasn’t crying but visibly upset asking why mum isn’t answering the phone.
When I got in touch with my mum she was at her house having a party with her partner and family. My sister looked like she was about to cry, she was looking forward to spending some quality time with her mum after being away in another part of the country for 4 weeks.
I don’t know how to handle this or what to do. My mum said she wasn’t due to get sister back till 6pm but given the conversation saying how much she missed her daughter earlier in the week, am I being unreasonable to think that any mother would want to see their child ASAP? Mum said she’s been up till 3.30am working, doing what, I do not know.
I’m so upset and angry for my sister. I had to endure this as a child and now I have to sit back and see my youngest sister go through it.
I feel like shouting and telling her what she is doing is wrong but I know it will fall on deaf ears.
Sorry if this is a bit all over the place but I’m just so angry.
What can I do?