Is this normal?!

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I got together with my best friend. I've just come out of a long relationship; he's been single for a few years. So it's been a while since either of us have started something new.

We're fucking stressed about it?! We both seem in a bit of a panic. I keep wondering if it's the right thing to do. Second guessing if we're quite clicking enough, if he likes me enough even though I think he does. It feels like a big deal. We have a solid emotional connection and we fancy each other a lot but something seems off. But I can't tell if it's because we're afraid of what this might be or if it's just a terrible idea.

Is this normal?! Any thoughts?

Surely the stress here comes from the fact that you have a good friendship and if you have sex with him and it turns awkward then you've lost a friendship.

Perhaps if it's just sex you should create boundaries. Just remember that a new partner may not like that you are friends with someone you hooked up with.

Are you only looking for sex, it sounds like you may be want more than that. You could always say we'll give it a go and if it doesn't work say we'll end it.

Either way this could be a really good thing or end awkwardly. I wish you luck.

How long have you been together? I'd say if it is very new it may take a bit of adjustment, possibly try to avoid overthinking it and analysing too much. If you both like each other as more than friends and there is chemistry then give it a go. If not, don't!

Thanks so much for replying! We've decided to start up a relationship- it's only been a few days... just worried it should be easier?! Maybe we're just overthinking it. I really don't know.

I think you may be overthinking! Relax. Don't try to pin it down. Give it a few weeks to get used to the change then if you still aren't sure you'll know it is because it isn't right, rather than a knee jerk reaction.