Partner doesnt make time for me and our son

[CharlieBearX]

I've been with my partner for 2 and a half years now we have an 11month old baby boy, hes an absolute daddy's boy he adores his dad but before we had our son he used to make time to see me everyday or text me all day on the days he couldn't see me but now since I had a baby and got my own house he can go weeks without contacting me he thinks it's okay he cares for his mam so that's his excuse constantly, he doesn't bother to ring to ask how his son is or to just check in recently he got his mam to text me to say his phone screen was broke so he couldn't contact me so I didn't bother ringing him he went a full week with no contact whatsoever it's been happening for months then when he's finally visited us I've checked his phone the screen was working perfectly nothing wrong with it so I've been lied to so I'd leave him alone, me and my son love him so I've been letting him get away with this for months for the sake of our family but there's only so much someone can take being made to feel invisible or unwanted should I leave for my sake or stay for our sons sake? Am I the one in the wrong for being angry at him for putting all his time into caring for his mam over spending time with his family

He isn't in a relationship with you.

Cut your ties and move on.

Not sure I agree with everyone else.
What's wrong with his mum? How long does she have left? How far away does she live? If she's very sick and close to dying and he's her main carer then I don't think it's unreasonable that he spends a lot of time with her. He does need to communicate with you about it though.

@SomethingChief

Not sure I agree with everyone else. What's wrong with his mum? How long does she have left? How far away does she live? If she's very sick and close to dying and he's her main carer then I don't think it's unreasonable that he spends a lot of time with her. He does need to communicate with you about it though.

I don’t think people necessarily disagree with you here - if his mum is really poorly it’s good he’s looking after her.

However, I think it’s the lack of contact, no texting or communication. Even if he were looking after his mother all week, couldn't he spend at least a morning or evening with his son? Or at least text or phone to see how everyone is. Op is under the illusion that he is her partner, but he’s not acting that way.

My first child’s father was like this. I gave him a month to sort himself out and move in with us properly. On the day he was meant to move in he called me and said he was trying to organise a van to help him move his stuff. I told him don’t bother, he’d had a whole month to arrange moving and he’d done absolutely nothing about it, hadn’t even packed anything or told his mum he was moving out. I ended it that day and never took him back.
It gave him the kick up the arse he needed because he became the dad he should have been from the beginning.
He wants to be single OP, bin him off.

Well he’s clearly not being a partner to you.

Whats wrong with his mum- has she not got long left?

I think you’re the shag. That’s it.

Sweetheart you are worth so much than this.
Does he even pay child support to you?
I'm so glad you have posted on here, it show you know that this situation isn't right.
Please finish this 'relationship' and move on with your life with your lovely DS