Am I overreacting or is it him?

[whattodoooooooo]

Name changed for this because I'm so confused. Bear with me, this is so weird.

My DP and I haven't been getting on well for the past week or so. Hardly speaking, and he's sleeping on the sofa. That's a whole other story, but might have relevance to what I'm talking about.

Basically a girl requested to follow me on social media the other night. Her bio showed some things we both have in common. I accepted her and followed back. She messaged to say thanks for the follow etc, and we started chatting from there. She seems nice, and this is where it gets weird... I have a sneaking suspicion it's my DP. Just the way the messages read, things that are said - for example: out of a bad relationship, miss sex, time to become a lesbian (joking), and telling me multiple times that I am stunning, etc.

The account posts pictures here and there's maybe like one or 2 a month. It doesn't sit right with me for some reason, just a niggling feeling. I feel like it's my DP trying to get something from me. I don't know, I'm so confused.

My DP isn't on my social media anymore as he doesn't use it much and got rid of it, but I know he had a fake Facebook a few years ago (under a female name) to check on family. Doesn't really bother me but maybe it's relevant.

How do I find out? Obviously if I ask him he'll laugh and deny it, and I'll feel like I'm crazy. Maybe I am 🤷🏻‍♀️

Worm your boyfriend into the conversation and say something like "I really like it when he wears x shirt, you find him incredibly attractive in it"
If he starts wearing it soon after, then there you have it.

Maybe request that you meet up or video call?

He sounds like a real creep, tbh. What the hell is he hoping to get out of this?

Certainly sounds like it could be a catfishing type account. And he does have that history.

I would trust your gut - there's a reason you're thinking along those lines.

@TheChip

Worm your boyfriend into the conversation and say something like "I really like it when he wears x shirt, you find him incredibly attractive in it" If he starts wearing it soon after, then there you have it.

I always tell him though and he wears them 😂

@HollowTalk

He sounds like a real creep, tbh. What the hell is he hoping to get out of this?

I have no idea. Maybe for me to talk about sex or becoming a lesbian. Men suck

It would make sense too because it's a way of keeping up with my social media without his own page.

@category12

Certainly sounds like it could be a catfishing type account. And he does have that history.

I would trust your gut - there's a reason you're thinking along those lines.

He's gone out driving with the kids, so i've sent her a message. Will see how long it takes for a reply.

I have to be honest OP, if you honestly think he's capable of something so weird and creepy, I think it's time to leave.

I can't imagine being in a lasting relationship where this was even a possibility that would cross my mind.

You can reverse image search her photographs. This won't tell you if it's your DP, but it will tell you if she's real.

@Sparklfairy

I have to be honest OP, if you honestly think he's capable of something so weird and creepy, I think it's time to leave.

I can't imagine being in a lasting relationship where this was even a possibility that would cross my mind.

This!

That’s so so so creepy. I mean like ick giving creepy as fuck run for the hills level of creepy and he’s done it before. Honestly I’d be out over that.

You could go to “forgot password” on Instagram and then follow those steps to getting the code sent to the phone number the account was set up with. It won’t give you the full phone number but it will give you the last three digits. If he’s set it up with his number.

Just be warned if you do this it will actually send a code to that’s number though. My boyfriends ex was harassing me on Instagram and we knew it was her but that’s how we 100% confirmed it.

You can paste some of the messages into this tool
www.hackerfactor.com/GenderGuesser.php

However if it's a man trying to write like a woman would, that may not tell you much.

Do reverse Google image search on the posted photos to see if they appear elsewhere.

If it is your DP that is creepy. My guess would be that he's hoping to find out if you're planning to leave him, or he suspects that you're cheating and hopes you'll confide in "her".

If this your partner, he's sick. What an insanely creepy, alarming thing to do. That would spell the end of the relationship for me.

Gosh, I do hope it's not your partner as that would cast doubt in your future relationship.

@ChronicallyMe

You could go to “forgot password” on Instagram and then follow those steps to getting the code sent to the phone number the account was set up with. It won’t give you the full phone number but it will give you the last three digits. If he’s set it up with his number.

Just be warned if you do this it will actually send a code to that’s number though. My boyfriends ex was harassing me on Instagram and we knew it was her but that’s how we 100% confirmed it.

I just did that. Thanks so much. Email and phone number doesn't match his, thank god. Maybe it's just a coincidence but I'll still block and delete as like someone said, sounds like a catfishing account.