My marriage is over. He's always been aggressive but in the past couple of years he's become unbearable. He screams at me, calls me names, belittles me. We argue, he behaves better for a while and then the cycle repeats. He's disabled and uses his disability as a weapon against me. Last night he came into my room at 3am, turned the lights on, calling me a fucking bitch and threw the light switch at my head. This morning he pretended it never happened and I made it up. He's actually contacted my friends to tell them he's worried about me because I'm behaving strangely. I'm done with it. I'm not exposing myself and the kids to this anymore. We've been married for more than 15 years, 2 kids.
I've looked up solicitors and I will call them on Monday. He will never agree to leave, so I'm looking for a place to rent. I've got nowhere to go in the meantime so I'll have to stay put for a week or so. I've spent today packing my stuff and the kids'.
If you went through a divorce, how did the actual split work for you? Did you move out? Did it have a lasting effect on the children? Did splitting finances cause issues? How long after moving out did you initiate divorce proceedings? Did you discuss finances and child visitation immediately? I haven't got much of a plan at the moment, I just know that I've got to leave.