Does this sound like emotional abuse

[Lolabray]

I have recently split and still processing things.

My now ex used to mention his ex quite a lot.

Some of the things that stick in my mind are:

Why don’t you go get your nails done with (his ex)
I’m going to (ex’s) house on Christmas Day (we had been together 6 months)
Why don’t you go to a Botox party with (his ex)
She makes loads of money she makes £400 a time doing hair extensions
Look what (ex) is giving me (large piece of furniture)
I came to his house and there was furniture she had given him
His ex posting memories on his time line years after split

I’ve never had something like that before in a relationship and have got our due to various reasons including issues around his ex/ him not listening to me/

We had been together 3.5 years btw

None of that is emotional abuse, he just obviously thought a lot of her and you didn't shut it down.

From those examples, I wouldn't put that down as emotional abuse

Not based on those examples, no.

girlmom21

None of that is emotional abuse, he just obviously thought a lot of her and you didn't shut it down.

Believe me here I did and wasn’t listened to. Hence it all blowing up and ending.

He’s using you while he waits for her to take him back.
Cut him loose and move on.

It sucks he didn't listen to you but the examples given and him talking about his ex isn't emotional abuse

Sorry, just reread it. Well done for moving on, don’t t go back !

It sounds more like he didn't deal with their split very well, her too possibly.

You dodged a bullet though

He wasn't over her, you were a rebound fling.

You are free to meet an emotionally available man now.

Yes I agree and I’ve told him until the day you turn up at my house with divorce papers and a ring in your hand to prove your commitment to me , then you can jog on. Until then pigs may fly.

And three years of this, i have wasted so much time

@Lolabray

Yes I agree and I’ve told him until the day you turn up at my house with divorce papers and a ring in your hand to prove your commitment to me , then you can jog on. Until then pigs may fly.

Why would you want to have a relationship with a man who has to be forced and coerced into treating you respectfully.

insidenumber5

Lolabray
Yes I agree and I’ve told him until the day you turn up at my house with divorce papers and a ring in your hand to prove your commitment to me , then you can jog on. Until then pigs may fly.

Why would you want to have a relationship with a man who has to be forced and coerced into treating you respectfully.

Exactly and exactly me saying pigs may fly..

All the time you have been with him, he's still been married to this woman? Really?

DuchessOfDisaster

All the time you have been with him, he's still been married to this woman? Really?

Sorry they separated 5.5 years ago

And had no intention of getting divorced due to cost?!

Still not abuse.

A more useful question would be why you have such low expectations of relationships that you accepted all this?

For you to address with yourself, not on here.