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Advice needed

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katyalexandra · 27/08/2021 16:41

Ok this is gonna be a long one…

A short back story, we got together 6 years ago (19 & 20) had DD1 a year later and DD2 last year. We’ve always had an on and off relationship, flings with other people but always came back to each other. Were not in a relationship and we still don’t live with each other. We have the same circle of friends, well I say same circle, my friend is with his friend so everyone sort of knows everyone. What gets to me the most is social events, all his friends seem to take their girlfriends but he wouldn’t even think to ask me to go along and always goes on his own (it’s a large group, quite a lot of them don’t have girlfriends so he isn’t the only one on his own). I don’t have a big friendship group and never go to social events as never invited to any. This gets to me a lot and I just feel as though I’m relying on him a lot in terms of our relationship yet he’s happy enough to do whatever he pleases and doesn’t think of me for a second.

Are my feelings valid? Should I leave? Or am I overreacting?

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GreyCarpet · 27/08/2021 16:48

You say you're not in a relationship and are not living together so what is there to leave?

Can you start being proactive and inviting others out to things so that you do have other people to spend time with?

katyalexandra · 27/08/2021 16:57

@GreyCarpet hey thanks for your reply! We are still ‘together’ in a sense of we still do everything like a relationship but just without the label.. which also makes me wonder am I being an idiot.

I have about 4 friends who I’m close too, all have boyfriends/families of there own. I work all week and when it comes to the weekend there busy doing there own thing with there families.

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