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How do I solve this?

5 replies

calamine · 01/12/2007 23:30

Basically I mentioned to my friend a few weeks ago that my son (9) had asked for a certain album for christmas but as he never looks after his CD's I begrudged paying £15+ for it (but I was still intending to buy it, begrudgingly).

Anyway, she then said she would get her husband to download it, put it onto a cd and then give him it as her christmas present. Thing is I don't really agree with copying and downloading cds...especially as presents and I'd already turned her down about downloading harry potter films for him for £3 each.

Anyway I said it was a nice idea and was going to continue with "but I think I'll just buy him it so he has the art work etc" but as soon as I said it was a nice idea she looked pleased and said "oh good, that's another present sorted then!" and I didn't have the heart to say it.

Anyway, last week I cam across the album in HMV for £6 and I'm really short on stocking fillers so I bought him it (especially as it came in a nice cardboard sleeve etc). I was intending to tell friend that I'd found it cheap and bought it but before I had chance she said "Oh, he's downloaded that album for you so I've wrapped that up..."

How do I deal with this? I really want son to have the proper one but dont want to hurt friends feelings. At this rate however he is going to open two presents the same and will probably mention it when he sees her then she will know anyway that I bought it.

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coldtits · 01/12/2007 23:32

I would hold onto the one you bought, then if/when he ruins the one your friend bought him, you can bribe him with yours.

Maidamess · 01/12/2007 23:33

Why can't you say someone else got the 'proper' album for him, like your mum or someone? . I'm sure you could word it so it wouldn't hurt her feelings. Its not like she's spent a lot of money on the Cd.

Pages · 02/12/2007 12:37

Maybe honesty is the best policy here (gently and carefully worded of course) as it will be an ongoing issue otherwise, every birthday and Xmas time...?

OverMyDeadStuffedTurkey · 02/12/2007 12:42

I'd say eccept the present graciously, after all it is the thought that counts, and tell your ds not to mention you got him the cd too, as that would hurt her feelings.

OverMyDeadStuffedTurkey · 02/12/2007 12:46

Do they pay for their downloads? If so it's perfectly legit and not doing anything wrong.

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