I spent this evening with one of my older sisters - she's been divorced some time now. She told me about an incident when her son (now 27 and left home) was a toddler. Her ex-husband used to have a night out with his friends on Sundays and often brought one of them back after the pub for more drinks. Whilst my brother-in-law was upstairs in the toilet, the friend put his hand on my sister's leg and tried to kiss her. She told him to get off and he said 'You know you want me to'. She told him she didn't and to get off. She heard my brother in law flush the toilet and come downstairs and made her excuses and went to bed.
Next morning she told her husband and his reaction was one of disbelief. All this is bad enough but the following Sunday, my brother in law brought the same friend back to their house! My sister said she used to make sure she was in bed with a good book early on Sundays to avoid the friend.
I'm absolutely appalled and so angry on her behalf. They're divorced now and I am still on good terms with my ex brother-in-law (he's remarried) for the sake of my nephew. I want to ask him about it but not sure I should.
She said she felt so shocked she couldn't bring it up again, but effectively he's gaslighted her about this and prioritised his sleazy mate (who I learned had a reputation for being a flirt and a show off) over his own wife. I am furious!