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[Polly118]

Iam 60 married on a 70 year old man for 30 years. Happy marriage lovely family and grandchildren. Why have I fallen in love with a 44 year old single parent with two small children . Iam a responsible practicle woman and see a million reasons for this not to work but I want him so badly . I cannot think about anything else . What do I do

Nothing. You're married.

Well, you either remind yourself you're married, or tell your husband your leaving to see how it goes with another man. If it works out with the OM you could be very busy with his DCin your retirement. Do you have DC of your own? Does this younger man feel the same way as you?

I recommend the first. Stop interacting with the younger man.

You are not in love, you are infatuated. You are living in a fantasy right now that I can assure you would never live up to expectations. You would want the burden of young stepchildren at 60? That's almost laughable. Your infatuation will pass.

I beg to differ, I don’t think you are practical or responsible!

When you say "want" what do you mean exactly ? Sex ? Or a life with him ?

You are pining for excitement and your younger days. Keep busy and stay away from him in real life and on social media.

Have a wank and move on.

Your in love with the idea of being in love with him.
He has maybe woken something up inside, but you have a false image of him and your future relationship.
Lust is not real love and doesn't last.
Imagine leaving your husband and finding out a few weeks or months down the line that he' s not the man you thought. That his kids drive you nuts or he could easily turn around and say he doesn't want you anymore. What then?
You already have everything you want and need, don't throw It all away for the sake of abit of excitement. A lot of women would love to have the love security you have right now.

Its a fantasy... youre happily married why would you lose that?

Polly, can you elaborate on the circumstances? Is this a colleague? Does he reciprocate your feelings or is this infatuation one-sided?

I agree that you are attracted to the feelings engendered by this crush…a reflection of your younger self.

You know that choosing infidelity would be destructive on many levels, and your H does not deserve to be made a fool of. You need to cut off the oxygen supply to your crush by going no or very low contact.

This much younger man has little children. There is no future here.

There is always something we want that we can't have. Learn to live with it.