Or maybe I’m just too intense 
Basically DP rarely organises anything. We’ve been together over a year now (known each other a bit longer) and he works lots, often tired, early 40s, quite happy with chilling in an evening and staying in. That’s not to say he won’t go out, but it’s always me saying let’s go here or do this and then he’ll do it and say afterwards he had a great time, thanks so much for suggesting it, what a great idea etc etc. For instance I suggested we went to a gallery the other weekend and then stopped for lunch at this famous tea place (we love tea) and he enjoyed the whole day, sent photos to his family about it.
It just winds me up that he rarely looks into things or researches anything! I have also tried not making any effort and going with the flow a bit more (I’m NOT very good with that!) and he will then suggest something very last minute, ie in bed on the morning but it’s often chaotic, have to book tickets last minute and often there aren’t any, it’s not planned and so sometimes more expensive (if we get a train somewhere for instance) and I never have the right clothing with me! He’s not massively spontaneous so even when this happens it’s more because we are lying in bed and it occurs to him we could do something that day….
I guess I’ve started wondering if it’s a bad sign that he’s not that into the relationship…would he make more effort if he was? for context I can get anxious so I’m aware this could mean absolutely nothing and it’s just his nature. At the same time, whilst he’s affectionate, we see each other every few days and I’m happy, I’ve certainly been with men who have been a lot more full on with me and taken the reins.