Seeing each other exclusively for around 10 months. He’s not told any friends about me. His family know he’s seeing me but they are very reclusive, literally go out only to buy food. One parent has mental health issues so we can’t stay with them as going into the home triggers ocd for parent.
DP moved to this area for work around a year ago. All his friends are in London, he is now in north England. He’s not seen any friends for this entire time as he works so much and has dedicated himself to that since he moved. I’ve asked him outright why he hasn’t mentioned me and he said that he’s only had a few messages in a group chat with friends (which he showed me) and said there isn’t really an appropriate time to say oh hi I’ve got a new girlfriend. Having seen the chat it’s more about general chatter nobody specific talks about themselves.
He said early on with us he could have told them in phone calls but we had only just met so he didn’t want to. Fair enough. He’s said he doesn’t have phone calls regularly with his friends and he does intend to tell them but he gets awkward about these things and is quite a private person. He’s also said that his friends often joke about him being forever single and that he doesn’t know how to bring it up over the phone.
He’s definitely single. He’s 41, very reserved and quiet and has been shy about intimacy (we’ve worked on this and it’s all ok now) but he’s shy generally about the relationship. It’s taken time for him to come out of his shell.
Whilst im inclined to believe this has no bearing on how he sees me - we go out all the time around his new place, we are close etc….I’m also bloody insulted!
Not sure how to deal with it… instinct is to just leave it but it does bother me and when I raise it he just says he will at the right time.