Husband refuses to get Covid Shot

[SickOfCrap]

I'm pregnant, I have asthma and my husband is totally against the Covid Shot... it doesn't matter how much I try to explain to him that yes, he has a choice, but that his choices impact our lives and other people's lives, he won't change his mind.
I got my shots, but my main concern is that we'll have a new born and a senior (my mom) who's gonna help take care of the baby, and he doesn't bother to do what's right! He might be healthy as hell but if he caught that and passes on to less vulnerable people like his baby or my mom, I don't even know what I'd do...

I really don't know what to do and what I want from this post. Just really frustrated and wanted to maybe ask for opinions and advice on how to approach this...

Speaking to someone who works in ICU earlier today. She’d just lost a man who’d refused to have the vaccine. She says the huge majority of those with bad Covid are those who are not vaccinated.

I’d kick him out until he got the thing quite honestly. I can’t be bothered with these arseholes any more!

Is he not even worried about the risk (however small it might be) to himself? He could end up seriously unwell or worse. I wouldn't want my husband to risk not being there for his newborn child.

@TrufflyPig

Is he not even worried about the risk (however small it might be) to himself? He could end up seriously unwell or worse. I wouldn't want my husband to risk not being there for his newborn child.

Nope! And that's what really gets me pissed!!! Not even worried about himself. He thinks he's invincible and will never catch this or die from it. It makes me sick because if something happens to him, I'll be by myself with a baby. This looks very irresponsible to me, but there's no reasoning with him. =/

Some people are very genuinely worried about the long term effects of the vaccination, also about the blood clots. It does not make them fools or selfish, it is a real fear

I think it is an individual's decision. As mentioned having the jab is no guarantee. It can reduce symptoms but you can still catch covid and you can still pass it on to others even if double jabbed. I personally know several people who have had both jabs and still caught covid and passed it on.

@layladomino
Your first post was spot on

@Rachna83 No! It is selfish and ignorant.

Your husband is a selfish, stupid fucker!
The overwhelming evidence is that being vaccinated massively reduces the chance of being ill with the virus.
88% of adults are now vaccinated, that means that 12 % are either stupid or in a tiny tiny minority who can't be.

Almost all of the patients with covid in hospital are unvaccinated.
These stupid, selfish, fuckers are cluttering up hospitals and ICU's whilst people who need hospitals for cancer, heart attacks etc can't be treated properly because of the abundance of idiots.

We have gone far too far down the "rights of individuals" in society and too little on the individuals "responsibilities to society"

In the US, per the Government there have been less than 10,000 people hospitalised with Covid who have been vaccinated, of these more than 2000 were hospitalised for something other than Covid -like a car crash.

www.cdc.gov/vaccines/covid-19/health-departments/breakthrough-cases.html

As of August 16, 2021, more than 168 million people in the United States had been fully vaccinated against COVID-19.

During the same time, CDC received reports from 49 U.S. states and territories of 9,716 patients with COVID-19 vaccine breakthrough infection who were hospitalized or died.

168 million vaccinated people resulting in 1,500 deaths
US Population is 333 million, and total deaths are 649,680 in the US, call it 650,000 ( www.worldometers.info/coronavirus/#countries )

So....
165 million unvaccinated people have had 648,500 deaths
168 million vaccinated people have had 1,500 deaths

What is to debate?
Your husband is a stupid, selfish fucker!

Start getting pragmatic.

Make sure your wills are up to date.

Take out/ increase life assurance on him so you and the baby will be taken care of if he dies.

Make a list of everything that would need to be sorted if he dies (what would his wishes be for a funeral etc?
Make him pay into a funeral plan so that cost is covered.

Set up private health care if you don't already have it for your family.

At each stage (life assurance, healthcare etc) the premiums will be higher because he hasn't had his jabs, as the stats reflect that he's more likely to live/be healthy if he does. Maybe that will give him a dose of reality.

If he won't protect himself, then you protect yourself and your baby, financially at least, so if the worst happens you can support yourself long-term.

Put it bluntly; you can't force him to have his vaccinations, but you can plan for a life without him in case he dies of covid.

The OP was concerned about the virus being passed on to her mum/baby which can happen whether you are jabbed or not. The vaccine is not a miracle cure. You can still catch covid and still pass it on.
What it does do is lesson the severity of symptoms if covid is caught so yes a reduction in hospitalisation.

My partner wouldn’t get the COVID vaccine either and I am 25 weeks pregnant (I’ve had my first one). I told him that for now, we cannot sleep in the same bed or have close contact etc, so we were sleeping in separate rooms and not spending time together. A few days later he went and got his vaccination. He realised how serious I was about protecting myself and our baby! I personally think if you need to show him how serious you are about it.

Amazing how fast some change their minds when the sex dries up.