Inappropriate jokes and controlling behaviour

[Zig27]

One of my friends was thinking of setting me up with this guy. On two occasions he has made paedo ‘jokes’ about Rolf Harris and Jimmy Saville. I just find this topic quite disturbing. Why do people think this ‘humour’ is appropriate. I also cannot understand why my friend would try and set me up with him. This guy even said last night at the start of covid in the supermarket when there were shortages he took baby formula powder from a woman’s overflowing trolley. He told her you don’t need that as he claims she would sell it on eBay. This shows he must be quite controlling.

Doesn't matter what you call it, he's a horrible bloke.

He's a horrible bellend and if a friend suggested this idiot for me, it would really affect my opinion of them.

Not sure you can determine if he’s controlling or not from that example. You can say with certainty that he’s a knobhead though.

The baby milk thing not only makes him sound controlling, it also shows he lacks awareness of how he comes across. He thinks that story makes him sound good, as if he is a socially responsible man of action.

I would be seriously questioning your friend's judgment here along with reviewing this whole friendship altogether. Is this person really a friend of yours or acting in your best interests?. I would say not.

How do you know the guy said all those things, have you met him, or did your friend tell you he said them?

@Thelnebriati

How do you know the guy said all those things, have you met him, or did your friend tell you he said them?

He said these things right in front of me last night.

I'd find new friends.

Wow he sounds nice. Don't entertain it even for a second. Why is your friend trying to set you up?

Tell your friend not to bother setting you up with this guy. You don't share his values.

Thanks for all of your advice. I will not engage with this negative man again. The whole incident has made me feel sick. For all I know he may be into it or he may be against it but I don't want this negativity.

Does your friend know this is the kind of person he is? If so, I'd stop spending time with her. No good friend would set you up with him.