Marriage

[N2old]

I need some advice please. My marriage I think has run it’s course.I have no dependents at home a small mortgage but only a small income. I’m not financially stable enough to support myself.
My husband has over a number of years had non physical relationships with other women. When confronted his response is always I’m not going to run away with them or they aren’t going to want me. Never sorry 😞 I’m realistic enough to know things won’t change and I’m tired of making excuses that it’s the drink making him do it etc.
I know I need to find a full time job but I’ve been out of the proper workforce for generations as I was always the childcare provider and now feel I’m unemployable. My husband is sole trader/ self employed so I’ve always been involved with that admin wise.I’m not looking for immediate actions. I would appreciate advice on how to plan an escape route as even though I’m a middle aged woman I think I deserve a bit of happiness even if that means living on my own.
Hope this makes sense 😒

I’d get the FT job before planning to leave so long as there’s no abuse. Contact some recruiting agencies in your field, they can also help you get your CV better written. And start applying for FT jobs. Make sure you have your own accounts just in your name if you don’t already.

At some point you’ll have to tell DH about planning divorce from him. Think about a good time for that because you have to consider what life after would be like while in same house but at same time you don’t want to live a lie.

Your DH should buy out your share of the family home or it would be sold and split, so you’d then both need new homes.