How do I help some one greive

[flowerpops97]

Hi I've been with my boyfriend 1 year. We're share everything and we're very close.

He lost his Nan and I'm so devastated for him. He is in a bad way. But he doesn't want any thing to do with me. I don't no what to do. I text him said I love him and if he wants to cry or talk in there. But he's ignored me. Do I just leave him alone untill he is ready.

That's all you can do I'm afraid. You can only go with what he tells you. You have told him you are there for him.
Just check in periodically, possibly drop off some food, but don't make a big deal, drop it and leave if he doesn't ask you to stay.

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Thank you I feel completely useless 😞

Write him a card and send flowers, he just needs time to process what's happened. It's early days and people do act strangely when someone close to them dies. It's awful feeling rejected when you want to help but he'll appreciate your patience. 💜

Grief affects people in many different ways. His devastation inside warrants that he cannot be close to anyone right now until he processes the pain he is in. Think of him going into his cave to be alone. This is not personal OP, it’s how he needs to deal with this. Stay away, text occasionally and be there for him when he starts to heal. It’s a long journey out of grief and he may act very differently for quite a while.