A few months ago I bought a ticket to an amazing looking festival. I messaged a few people to invite them and they didn't want to go. One of the people I invited was one of my best friends from when we both loved in Spain and had come to stay with me last autumn a couple of times and we had talked excitedly about making travel plans once we were able to again. I asked her specifically to the festical because it looked like her kind of thing.
She said she couldn't go because she had already booked to work away for the summer.
Then there was a family version of the event announced and I booked a ticket for that to take my DD with (you might see my previous post about it not going quite to plan with the email correspondence with the company, but we made it in then end). I checked with her again if she was still going away for the summer because she works with kids so I still felt she might like to go and I've known her to change plans in the past so wanted to double check, and she said she was still going away.
Anyway fast forward to the England Euro Final and I was going up to London to watch the match. We hadn't seen each other for ages and I said I'd be up there if she wanted to meet. She said she wasn't sure because she had work the next day (mature student). I said okay don't worry. Then she said oh but I really want to see you because I'm going away for the summer soon. I said well I'm still around the day after because I'm going to stay the night . She said okay I can meet you around 6/7pm after work. The day of the meet she was texting me all day asking me my plans for the daytime and I said I was going with the flow. I said shall I text you later when I'm heading to the train station and we can meet around there? So then late afternoon she asked me again and I said I should be at the station around 6pm. Then she said it was too late and no point meeting as it would only be for an hour or two and she was too tired to travel to the train station. I said 'okay but it was you who said to meet at that time' and left it at that. She said 'yeah I know'. Then she said 'oh but I really want to see you before I go away'. I didn't reply because I was tired and had wasted a lot of energy making plans which didn't come to fruition and just decided not to try and make plans with her anymore.
Anyway, a few days before the family festival, she texts me to see if I'm still going and says she's got a job there with the kids last minute . I ask her about the summer job and she says she decided not to go in the end. She's all excited for it and I told her there were still tickets for the adult version if she wanted to come (I'm going alone).
When I see her at the festival we are talking and she asks me if I'm going to the adult one and I tell her yes and she should come and we would have a great time. She says she doesn't want to feed her wages back into the company by buying a ticket for the next one so I say okay fair enough. I see her a few times the first day and second morning and then her contact and effort to find me during her breaks dwindles (she was camping about twenty metres from me in the staff bit, with just a fence between us and we both had phones). In the night time I go out to the party area and look for her and can't see her. I see her on the last day and she says she did go out but much later on with her work colleagues. She then says 'oh we are thinking to go to the adult festival now'. I say 'who is we,' and she says her male team mate she's been working with the past two days. I say 'are you guys seeing each other now then?' and she says 'i think so'. She says we can camp next to each other. I say 'oh so you'll go to the festival with a guy you've just met but you won't go with me' and she laughs and admits pretty much. Then I say 'I don't really want to camp next to you if you're gonna be noisy all night with him'. She says 'oh yeah thats true.'
Later on that day I bump into the two of them at an activity and chat for a bit and they go off to do archery. I've got a toddler with me and at no point does she offer to watch my toddler for a few minutes so I can do archery too. I sit on the bench for a while with my daughter and see them walking back past me and my toddler and there wasn't even a head turn from her to say bye or see how I am. She knows I'm there completely alone and she is also staff.
Am I overthinking it or is she a bad friend?
I'm still going to the adult festival but I don't want to be a gooseberry to the two of them starting a new romance.