Partner doesn’t want to see me when he’s on late shifts/oncall/working weekends.
I get oncall, fine. I get weekend working isn’t going to fit with time together either. But it can end up writing off 2 weeks at a time, regularly. I’ve said let’s have a set weeknight during this time and if it ends up being late then we’ll just chat in bed before sleep.
Other than this it’s a great relationship. We have talked about moving in but it’s sill early days really. I’m fed up of feeling like it’s so on off. Anyone else have similar with a shift worker?