Marriage Problems and Marriage Counselling

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I’m just looking for advice for those who may have been in a similar position to me. I have been married to my husband for many years and we have children together. We’ve had many ups and downs but more recently more downs. I have got to the point where I don’t know if we have a healthy marriage anymore, we rarely show affection, sex is dwindling, we argue more, we don’t really spend time together anymore and just seem like we have this big void between us. I do have some resentment that I have harboured from years ago, where my husband was emotionally shut down and this had a huge impact on me, I felt alone and unsupported. This has made me feel differently towards him. I want things to work, I really do and saw our marriage for the long-haul. I think we need counselling, where I can raise these things freely and help me overcome any feelings I’m still harbouring. We both had fairly difficult upbringings, so we both have no real model of how a healthy marriage should look.
I’m just at a place where I no longer know what to think or do….
Would marriage counselling be a good starting point, providing he agrees?

Hi we went through similar a few years ago. H had a breakdown and in the run up to it (a good few years) pushed me away and I felt alone for a long time. We have had marriage counselling and our now in a much much much better place. It really worked for us. We both had difficulty in childhood so also had no good relationship model to look to, and talking through our issues in a safe place with a third party was really helpful. I wish you the best with whatever you decide x

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I think marriage counselling would be useful. You need to have a place to communicate your feelings to each other.

Marriage care is a national counselling organisation.