How would you feel?

[Shoshanna1]

If you caught your DH or DP checking out another woman while you were out with them, how would you feel? Caught DP looking at the same woman a few times while out today and I feel a bit pissed off really. Not sure whether I’m being unreasonable…..

Yes it is rude - what were the circumstances? Did he just glance as you were walking down the street or were you sat together somewhere and he was full on checking her out?

Of course you're not being unreasonable. Have you called him out on it?

We were sitting and she was kind of hovering about, every time I looked over at him he was looking at her and then quickly glancing away. I didn’t want to say anything at the time because we had the little one with us

Have you got an open and honest relationship with your DP? If you have, could you tell him it's rude and disrespectful to do that when he's with you?

Is the little one both of yours?

Mines done this a couple of times. Do you feel comfortable speaking to him about it? Would he take note or deny?
First time mine did this he denied then I did that child reverse phycology thing and he dropped himself in it. 2nd time he apologised. Another thing to add to the list of why ending things was the right thing to do sadly

I imagine he’d probably just deny it tbh. I’ll give it a go though. I know boys will be boys but when I’m sitting right there I think it’s a piss take.

It is a piss take and disrespectful. I know we all look but it makes you feel awful

So he says he has no idea what I’m talking about and now HE is in a mood. Can’t tell whether he’s just ‘being annoyed’ because he got caught or he’s actually upset/annoyed because he didn’t actually realise what he was doing and is getting shit for it 🤷🏻‍♀️

Annoyed because he got caught.

Yeah I think you’re probably right. Fucking men

He definitely knows what he did or he wouldn't be sulking. Prat.

Yea sulking equals guilt and annoyed they’ve been pulled up.
What made me laugh was mine always said how lucky he was to have me, beautiful etc, men stare at me..it always annoyed him yet it’s ok for him to do that to women?! Double standards

Totally. And I thought I had a good one…. clearly not. Why can’t they just own up to their shit.

I would be really upset tbh. Also why can't he just be honest when you talk to him about it ??

Deny deny deny I think the phrase is. I can’t prove it so he thinks he can get away with it.

Everyone looks though? Only I would probably say to DH bloody hell that man /woman is beautiful 🤣 go on have a look!

Who was the woman? Was she working there, a customer? was it innocent, would you have felt the same if the woman was unattractive? (in your eyes) did she see him?
I think his sulking is childish, he’s obviously embarrassed that he’s been caught.

I’ve been on the receiving end of being gawped at. Once in a supermarket, where the guy got slapped around the head by his significant other and told off for staring. I didn’t know whether to laugh or make a swift exit down the crisp aisle.

I get it suzi, we all do it. It’s not the end of the world but to be so obvious when I’m sitting right there I thought was off. She was just another person there. She was very attractive, maybe that’s why I’m upset about it. I’ll definitely just be calling it as I see it next time (if there is a next time)

@Shoshanna1 that’s what I did, mentioned it at the time. It’s easier for them to comprehend, almost like after the event they forget and so therefore it didn’t happen?!
How have things been since?