Escorts as porn?

[Boymum121]

Ok bare with me, this is quite long.

So i had a gut feeling when i saw my partner had left his phone lying around, and i snooped (ok, i know this is wrong)

After about 30 seconds, i found on his browser history that hes visited escort sites, googled 'escorts our area' and had visited multiple profiles.

I held this in for a few days and then brought it up randomly. He immediately denied hed ever thought about usijg their services, but rather was using it as porn?

Ive visited the site ans profiles that hes been on and i dont understand, most of the profiles are just a phone number, a long paragraph and then some normal pictures of them... So what is he w*ing to exactlt, and why does he have to search our area specifically?

Hes reassured me that he doesnt want to lose me, but i jjst dont know if i can believe what hes saying. That conversation ended and now hes been acting as if everything is normal?

I dont know what to do. I found so much stuff on there from looking for around 60 seconds so i dread to think what else is on there.

How do i trust him ever again? When i cant be sure hes telling me the truth.

You know what everyone will say: - dump him... so be prepared.
Why did you think something was up?
Men Will wank to the merest whiff of something they find sexy.. maybe that's his thing he gets off on?
Maybe he is visiting them? Would that be a deal breaker?
Xxx it sucks doesn't it when you don't know ... x

As man myself I don't think the "escorts as porn" story is very convincing. Escort sites advertise via regular porn sites and its possible to click on them by mistake quite easily, no doubt sites are designed to encourage this kind of "mistake." But this does not explain why he has searched for escorts in your area. Hard to come up with an innocent explanation for that.

This is the first time hes done this as far as im aware, he usually watches normal porn
Which is fine. I saw an email stating hed activated a facebook profile, but it must be a fake one as he doesnt have facebook anymore. And i saw hed been looking up girls hed previously been with, so something gave me a feeling to check his phone.

Yes if hes visiting them its a deal breaker, but he is saying he would never, and has never. I just dont know what to believe. It now hasnt been mentioned at all today

He says he was just 'being a perv' and looking at their pictures, but yeah it doesnt exolain why its specifically our area, although he said 'it was just a proximity search' whatever that means.

In answer to your question, you probably won’t ever trust him again, then resentment will set in because he’s got you doubting yourself.

So not only has he searched for escorts where you/he lives but he's also been searching his exes?! Why?

I would find this quite unsettling as he doesn't seem satisfied but that's just my opinion.

Look at bank statements around that time , has he taken out cash , got petrol or snacks from an area he doesn't usually go to ?

You seem amazingly calm. I'd have kicked his bollocks up under his chin, packed his bags and locked the door.

What a selfish entitled little perv. Are you sure you even want him?

I don’t think I could live with this. But I understand it might be a difficult decision for you. Why would he look up particularly local ones though? I would be getting a full STI check - and would want him to get one as well if I was ever to sleep with him again (which I probably wouldn’t).

I have ordered a postal sti test for myself just to be sure.
I dont have access to his bank statements, and his phone is on him 99% of the time, will likely be 100% now or hes probably deleted things from there. I cant kick him out as i live in his house with our one year old, and i have nowhere else to go.

This is what ive said, that hes obviously not happy with me. He said he feels like i dont find him attractive. Not sure what that would have to do with 'porn'?

You are in a very precarious position.
You aren’t married, you aren’t on the deeds of his house (I assume)
Do you have your own bank account ? Do you have a joint account ? Do you have a job ?

Yes i work part time as i was on maternity leave and my son has to stay home whilst i work. I do have ny own bank account but i dont earn a lot

And i saw hed been looking up girls hed previously been with

So he's been searching these people AND escorts. Yeah sorry OP but blantently looking for sex outside your relationship via the 'easiest route'.

The internet is crammed full of free porn so why do you think he's been looking at local escorts and people he's previously had sex with!??

I would start looking at how much you could claim benefits and maintenence wise asap. You need to do everything you can to secure your financial position before the shit hits the fan.

Ive visited the site ans profiles that hes been on and i dont understand, most of the profiles are just a phone number, a long paragraph and then some normal pictures of them... So what is he w*ing to exactlt, and why does he have to search our area specifically

These guys do exist, and as a sex worker they are the fucking bane of our lives. Out of every 10 texts/calls I get from purported potential clients, 1 will be genuine, the rest will be time wasters trying to get free wank material.

"please tell me what services you provide"
"tell me exactly what you'd do to me"
"what will you wear"
It's all just wank material. As a SW you learn these time waster flags pretty early. I can't tell you how many twats are saved in my phone as "text wanker" or "chats shit never books" or "repeatedly books and cancels". OK I can tell you, its well over 1000 and that's not including the ones I've saved as "wankstain", "fucknugget", and "total fucking idiot".

Oh that old chestnut “I used it as porn”

Heard it. Was lies.

Chuck him , far, far away

@Sexytimeusername
Thanks for the inside info - much appreciated.
Yes wankstain- my friend always uses that phrase - really makes me laugh x

Isn't it enough doubt to get out of the relationship? Isn't him sniffing round prostitutes bad enough? I daresay there are timewasters, but he could just as easily be a punter.

I recommend you take your baby and "go home to mother" if you have decent family.

It's no way to live with someone you can't trust.

He said it was just the pictures and he djdnt contact them so i dont know

And the Facebook profile and the ex's?

It's not exactly a picture of a loyal trustworthy partner, is it?