I have to tell her don't I?

[TheFriendlySquid]

I've received a message, along with proof this evening that my best friends partner is cheating on her.

I don't know how to tell her, she's going through such a shit time, she'll be so upset. But I can't keep this to myself, I couldn't look her in the eye if I did.

My best friend? Of course I'd tell her. You don't need to say, "Your partner is cheating on you!" You can tell her you received a message from someone (does she know that person? Why did they send it? Gossip? Because they thought you'd be best placed to tell her?) and you need to share it with her.

She's your best friend. Don't keep it from her and don't go in for the subterfuge of sending anonymous messages.

Presumably, if you were her, you'd want to know. How would you like to he told?

Why did the person tell you , rather than tell her. That doesn’t make any sense. Surely they should have gone straight to her. Yes you should tell her but bear in mind it could be someone stirring the pot, and it might be bs. That’s her call to make

I would tell my friend. I wish my friend had told me when I was pregnant as even though I understand why she didn't, I would have made different financial and career decisions that had a big impact on my life.

I have written about this before but - a word of caution.
I used to be very close friends (20+ years) with a woman who had always said she would want to know if her DH was cheating . I discovered he was , he knew that I knew . I told him that I was going to tell my friend which I did . She has never spoken to me again .