Erectile dysfunction from masturbation/porn - is it real?

[KittyScratch]

My relationship turned sexless about 2 years ago. Sex doesn't happen for us. Any attempt at sex is met with him pulling out and finishing himself off. It's awful.

I'm seriously thinking about calling it quits with him. I view sex as an important component to a relationship and our relationship is sexless because of his issues. We are so young. I did manage to get him to the doctor this summer for a diabetic blood test thinking maybe there's something else underlying condition but that came back clear.

He's a good person outside of the sexlessness but we have more issues now outside of the bedroom. He took a new job recently and it's the opposite schedule to mine and we don't even share one day off together. All summer long, it was all work for him, and work for me and we never shared one day off together.

I think if we were sexually intimate together we'd be able to overcome that and work through it but it's just another wedge between us. Whenever we do see each other, he has less patience on the roads as if he's in a rush, as if I force him to be with me.

I never had to break up with someone before but I'm seriously considering it. He is a good person and we get on well but the main issue for me is the sexlessness between us.

Yes, erectile dysfunction from porn is a very real thing. It’s not permanent, but if he wants to fix it he’ll have to completely shut off from porn for a good while.

www.everydayhealth.com/erectile-dysfunction/pornography-habit-is-linked-to-erectile-dysfunction-research-suggests/

However, the same website states that masturbation (I assume without porn) does not directly lead to erectile dysfunction:

www.everydayhealth.com/erectile-dysfunction/the-truth-about-masturbation-myths.aspx

I'd end it OP.
Don't tie yourself down while you're young. Sex is a huge part of a healthy relationship. Go and seek a bit more excitement in your life.

If this is a problem now it most likely will come creeping back in even is he does kick the porn habit.

It's a very real thing and I would be heading for the hills if I were you. Don't waste another day.

Definitely a real thing. My husband would only finish during sex using his hand. After a massive heart to heart and dealing with his issues with porn, he now has a premature ejaculation problem. - definitely proves he’s not using porn anymore however

I can't speak for all men op, but definitely was the case with an ex of mine. Absolutely wrecked my self esteem in the long run. Can you imagine being a sexless relationship forever more?

I think the only ones who will say it is not a real thing is heavy porn using men or women who are yet to experience a man who’s porn use becomes some bad that if happens
Yes absolutely real . Not your problem to fix either . If a man is so damn disrespectful of women that this is the outcome why bother .

Porn is for the soul, what McDonald’s is for the body.
True.

As a man I regard my ability to DTD and finish in the - er - usual places as fundamental to my masculinity. And sex is fundamental to my relationship with my DW. Most people have a physical and psychological need for sex, a sexless relationship is unnatural and unlikely to be happy in the long term.

I'm distraught and I should have pulled the plug on this relationship a long time ago and I will never know why I didn't do it til now. I suppose I was hoping for a change between us. I was hoping things would get better. It was hard to plug the plug on the relationship too because he is a good person and we usually get on very well together. So I was apprehensive but I'm not happy. The sexlessness is unreal. Covid didn't help things but even pre covid and when things were 'good' between us I think we did it about 2 or 3 times in 2019 but even then those attempts were failures.

Now there is this new issue where he took a new job that had the opposite schedule of my schedule and we don't even share one day off together in a week or a month. All summer long, it was all work, work, work, work from him. Even when he does have a day off, he's still working like painting or cutting grass or helping his brothers or fathers or doing whatever.