Someone help me on this..

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I’m breaking my heart if I’m honest. I’m torn unbelievably and need some input.

Relationship of 5yrs. Met old. We live 40 mins apart. Partner knew my location early on and also knew the distance/time to travel etc (this is relevant)

I feel future faked with him telling me he wanted to live together and loved where I am etc. The general consensus was he wanted to be where I live. He now won’t commute or meet me half way, he wants me where I am which I can’t do due to work.

Cutting a very long story of arguments and reasons why he would/ may/ may not/ now wont, it’s now hit me like a brick that my relationship will remain as a weekend only one and I hate the thought of that.
All this time down the line now attached and totally in love with him I don’t know what to do. I know what responses I’ll get I just need to vent really as it feels such a waste.

(Also no kids/neither wanting kids/marriage) this is merely a moving issue.

It is a moving issue. But also a commitment issue.

You want more. He doesn’t.

Hmm it sounds like you have hit that brick wall. Lack of commitment and moving forward together. Five years is a long time to be commuting to see each other. Do you think you can sustain this?

Would you move if work didn't stop you? How long would your commute be if you did work?

@Yutes yes I agree it’s commitment too

@Lolabray I’ve really tried as I’ve seen it slowly filtering to this point. I blame myself.
We’ve built a great (weekend mainly) relationship and that’s hard to end when I know he’s happy. I’ve also never done particularly well with men and he ticks a lot of boxes. But when we’re older how does this work?!

@girlmom21 probably not, without it outing myself my area has more going for it, that’s the point in why he suggested moving.
My job can’t really be moved so that’s not an option. I sound difficult but honestly I’ve exhausted all options

You don't sound difficult. He said he'd be willing to move to where you are and now has changed his mind. You don't want to move to where he is. He's the one who moved the goalposts.

@girlmom21 yes he has moved the goalposts. To think after all this time I’m not worth the great changes it would bring for us both is very upsetting. I’ve tried so much compromise..I give up