OLD - should I message him?

[snzow]

So I've matched with a guy on tinder snd trying to decide whether to message him.....

I don't usually have an issue with sending the 1st message but this situation is a bit different.

We matched Pre-covid, chatted for a bit then covid happened and we never met...eventually stopped chatting.

We've now matched again but he's not messaged me any I'm not sure whether to message him or save face if he's not interested.

We've followed each other on Instagram for the last year and I've liked some of his pics & reacted to some of his stories. He's watched all my stories but not reacted to one of them or liked a single picture back.

We actually seen each other IRL in a shop a month or 2 ago and obviously recognised each other and said hi (that was all as we were both with other people):

If he likes me surely he'd message me right?

God yes leave it - I’m all for not waiting for the man to make the first move but in these circumstances I would walk away

I personally wouldn't and I'd stop following him on Insta too. He's had plenty of opportunity to reach out to you and hasn't so for whatever reason, nothing necessarily bad, he's just not invested enough in getting anything going.

I'd unmatch and move on to more exciting things.

I wouldn't message him. You've already shown more interest than he's shown in you. Don't set a precedent where you're making all the effort.

If he wanted to he would.

Equally if you wanted to you would.

Without the angst, keep it simple. If neither of you have made the effort then its just not there.

No, do not message him.

Thanks everyone! That was my gut instinct!

I rarely message 1st but was so excited when we matched. I'll defo leave it tho