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Should I get in touch again? (long)

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milkymill · 30/11/2007 13:44

About 6 months ago I met up with local Mum through another parenting site ( we were both fairly new to the region). Both our dd's are 3, and we got on really well, and started meeting most weeks. Our dd's really hit it off and had fantastic fun together; I thought all was well. Anyway, a couple of months later she fell pregnant. She texted me a few times, and said that she was feeling too ill to meet up and couldn't really face it till she was geting better. I thought "fair enough I know what it's like" and thought she must feel pretty bad then. This was over 2 months ago and we haven't seen them since.

She has texted a few times since then saying she was feeling a bit better but not great, and that she was looking forward to meeting up again etc. The last time was a month ago and I've heard nonthing since despite sending a 'how are you?' email.

It seems we have been 'dumped' but I find it really odd. This woman was very warm towards us; buying little pressies when they went away, giving me photos of our dd's together etc.. I don't understand it. Apart from feeling a little miffed, what's really upsetting me is my dd. She never stops talking about friends dd, and asks me every single day 'when can we see them?'.

I feel really terrible for her, as after a recent uprooting from old baby friends, I don't want her to feel rejected in some way.
It's made me so sad for her.. Should I text her, or leave it be and see if she gets in touch?

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AnAngelWithin · 30/11/2007 13:47

text her. whats the worst that can happen? she doesn't reply. then at least you will know. tell her how you feel. you never know she could be feeling the same as you!! good luck

milkymill · 30/11/2007 13:51

Thanks. I suppose I'm a little bit scared of the rejection , and don't want to appear like someone who can't take a hint.

Seems a strange way to ditch a friend though??

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ruva · 30/11/2007 13:51

Please get in touch,

meemar · 30/11/2007 13:54

do get it touch - it's so easy for family/life/pregnancy to get in the way and before you know it a couple of months have slipped by. I'm sure she's not deliberately avoiding you.

Sounds like you had a nice friendship.

Howdydoody · 30/11/2007 14:04

make a phone call and say "we are going by near you on such a such a day can we pop in and see you for half an hour".

If you too nervous then text her, but phoning gets the problem sorted quicker i find

Dior · 30/11/2007 14:07

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AnAngelWithin · 30/11/2007 14:08

go on!! do it!! and let us know how you get on? pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease?!?!?

milkymill · 30/11/2007 14:10

Okay okay I'll text! Nice to hear you all don't think I'm just incerdibly dim for not taking the hint.

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milkymill · 30/11/2007 16:35

I did it! She replied and said we must meet up soon. I've given her my free dates so fingers crossed.....
Still can't help thinking she doesn't really want to see us though; maybe that's me being paranoid. Thanks for all of your kind encouragement.

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AnAngelWithin · 01/12/2007 09:51

well done!! hope it all works out for you!

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