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Should I tell my boyfriend

4 replies

Abbiewitha · 18/08/2021 10:20

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years, we live together, have 2 cats and I can see myself spending my life with him. We talk about marriage and kids all the time and I love him more than anything.

6 years ago when I was 18 and we had only been together a few weeks there was this guy that I worked with (he had a girlfriend) but was always a bit flirty with me, I was never flirty back but I think that was just his personality as he was like that with everyone.
Anyway one night I was really drunk and we were speaking on Snapchat and he asked me to send him a picture, I sent him one of my face and he asked for a ‘sexy picture’ so I stupidly sent him a picture of me in my bra, you could barley see anything just a little bit of cleavage, I felt guilty as soon as I had done it so I blocked him and tried my best to avoid him at work (he mostly worked week days and I worked weekends so it wasn’t that hard) to be honest I had completely forgotten about it until yesterday when he came up as I suggested friend on Facebook and all the guilt came flooding back.

I tell my boyfriend everything and we don’t have any secrets so I don’t know whether I should tell him but I’m terrified he will break up with me.
It was a STUPID drunk mistake that I made when I was 18 and I would NEVER do it again.

Should I tell my boyfriend or just live with the guilt? Would you forgive your partner for this?

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AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 18/08/2021 10:24

I wouldn’t.

You’d not been together long. You were probably not even “official” yet.

Balonzette · 18/08/2021 10:25

Definitely no!! Don't tell him. That would be ridiculous. Barely anything happened. You don't know how he will react - some people are super sensitive about stuff like this. If he's upset enough he might even end things for such a non-event. Would you risk your relationship for this?

Goodthings · 18/08/2021 10:26

Leave it, it’s nothing honest.

SilverRoe · 18/08/2021 10:27

No i would not tell him. You were young and immature and it was a one-off and while not great not like you slept with someone else! Can’t see how it would impact your relationship 6 years in unless you keep letting it get to you like this. Let it go, it was a silly drunken mistake.

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