Just found dick pic!!!

[starynight63]

I posted a few weeks ago, I found out partner of 7 years 2 kids (youngest 8 months now) had been having an affair and he left us. When I caught him out on the affair he suddenly felt awful and wanted to make things work.. I stupidly believed him.
He moved home but had been putting in minimal effort and I just felt something wasn't right.. soooo I did what I've read others do and swore I'd never do but went through his phone! And thank the bloody gods I did. I've been breaking my heart day and night thinking it's me that's not good enough & wanting more than anything us to work things out. I didn't find any messages (I presume all deleted as that's what he said he had been doing while having the affair) but in his recently deleted photos was a dick pic!!!! In our living room, with a new rug visible we only got last week. I AM FUMING.. shaking, crying, I feel lost.. who is this man?

Now I know that's me done, no way do I or my girls deserve this. And I know it must not be me that's not good enough, but simply he's turned into a lying, deceiving pig..
please give me advice to stop me getting sucked back in

One heartbroken mummy.

Thank his you saw it. What a weasel.

Good luck moving on with your girls x

Sending hugs. If you forgive him this time he will do it again. He will also have even less respect for you. Horrible for you but thank god you checked xx

Is it his dick?

Bogeyes, I'd imagine she knows his dick. Why don't you screenshot it and text it to him?

You are worth more than this. 💐

So he has sent someone this picture after you got back together?

You sound traumatised by this, I am so sorry for you. Make sure you look after yourself. Do you have family or friends to support you? Don't keep it to yourself.

When the shock wears off, it's time to start planning your future. You need to get away from this vile man. He is not on your side. He isn't concerned about your children. This is the behaviour of a very selfish person.

Apologies just seen that the picture was a week ago.

Thank you for all your messages.

Glad you all agree he's been a massive COCK. I confronted him about it, and guess what he's said.
"I took the picture when I was drunk, I thought it was a good idea but then I deleted it and never sent it to anyone I'd never do that" what a load of shit, a good idea to take a dick pic something you've never done before weeks after having an affair? Hmmmm okay then. This must just be the only thing he can think to say huh?

X

@Bogeyes

Is it his dick?

Yes.. in our lounge & on his phone. So he's obviously taken it to send to someone. Also it is a proper 'dick pic' not just a snap of it on the flop.

He’s an arsehole OP and there is nothing more upsetting than thinking ‘who is this person’. He is a total fool- you sound lovely— don’t feel bad for going through his phone, in my view people who have proved untrustworthy are open season when it comes to protecting yourself.

What a shame you didn't press send to all.............

You're worth more

I'd be so tempted to post it online: "Ex-partner on our new rug"

He just made this really easy for you. Throw him out! good luck

I totally agree with everything said.. and oh I wish I could send to all just to get my own back haha!
But why is it even when someone's done the worst thing to you, it's still so bloody painful to call quits. This just isn't the life I wanted for me or my girls, he was such a good man/father and I just don't understand why the hell he has done this to us I never will. My poor girls now won't have him around, I am never going to have respect for him & I'm going to have to feel this heartbroken for the foreseeable :( and on top of that be a single mummy which I'm so scared about.

What a mess :(

Sorry but on the flop made me laugh.... Bet he liked a right tool getting it hard mid lounge for the photo!! Never get how a man could think anyone would go 'oh phwoa' !!
Make it his loss op. He isn't worth your tears..

I’m so sorry. It is painful to grieve for the relationship you thought you had, even if you didn’t really. You won’t feel this heartbroken forever though, time will help. You will be ok. It will hard, but it will be ok. And it will be a massive relief not to be wondering what he’s up to and feeling constantly let down by him.

Practical head on. MN has lots of threads advising on practicalities of separating, or you could start your own. Do you have a job? Is the house rented/owned and if so in whose name?

Well you've ripped the plaster of and seen the wound now. At least you know where you're really dealing with. You sound strong - start looking forward x

What a vile wanker. I'd have been so tempted to send to all his contacts, including his family. That'll learn him