He killed the love between us

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I’m at a low so please be kind

My ex has killed the love between us by not listening to me and also when I asked for changes they were never made.

His drinking got worse. His ex was interfering.
We didn’t see much of each other

I ended it but feel quite dead inside. The old times or happiness faded when he chose to spend his free time in the pub, although we did see each other it wasn’t often. I just feel quite lost and numb.

That's grief. Read up about dealing with grief. It doesn't have to be a person who dies, we can grieve about many different things, including loss of love. Even the way you've titled your thread indicates that you feel something has died.

What you're feeling is normal, and it's not forever

You will get through this. My ex was like this. I was never a priority, only when I had something he wanted, money, a car (taxi) etc.

You may not see it now but you’re better off without someone like that dragging you down.

It is very hard especially when they describe you as their ‘world’ yet would rather spend a night getting pissed with mates or going away with friends (which is fine) but what it has done is create a huge void which has left me feeling kind of empty inside

If you were his world he would have listened to and respected your feelings.

Try to have a think about what you would like your life to look like and feel like. Not like you did with him, obviously, because he didn't make you happy.

You'll have this bit, where you feel like something's been amputated, then you'll feel fed up with having the hole, then you'll feel fed up with feeling fed up, then you'll realise that feeling fed up is what you have, and you don't feel like there's a hole any more. Then you'll start to feel better. It's a long, tedious road. But keep looking to yourself. Work out how/why you let it happen, so that you can make sure it doesn't replicate itself in your life again.

Work out how to feel good being single. It's a big job and it takes a while, but as a project, you won't find one that's better for you.

@TheFoundations thanks so much. I remember it with my last relationship feeling kind of bereft.