Can you show irritation to your partner?

[nevernotstruggling]

Without it turning into a huge issue? And likewise can they show it with you?

Sometimes, depends what mood I'm in/were in/how well we've slept and if we're hungry!

Usually I can just say you've annoyed me, and he will get a bit defensive for a minute and then we can discuss. We are both hot headed and I am very particular and I imagine annoying as I like things done exactly as I want them but don't want to do them myself 🤭

Absolutely. It doesn’t have to become an issue. It can be discussed calmly.
If you go in all aggressive though, it can escalate things.

If you've got problems with this, you have a bigger problem than irritation. You have a problem with respecting each other's feelings, and supporting each other when necessary.

I also think it depends on how the irritation is displayed, though, and what it's about. If you're having irritable explosions and storming out of the house for 5 hours because your partner accidentally left a light on, then that's not so acceptable as saying 'Oh for god's sake, we've talked about this 3 times this week and you said you'd switch it off!'

Yes.

I can communicate with my partner such that we respect each others feelings and don't attack eachother or try to negate eachothers experience. We both act with generosity and willingness to listen. We are each allowed to have our opinions and we also believe that it's ok to disagree.

What is your experience.OP?

Yes, we are both a bit gruff with one another now and then. It’s only over small stuff and neither of us get annoyed. For big things we both prefer to raise issues calmly although we have had the odd issue that has made or both of us tearful. We have not yet failed to sort issues out though :)

No.
I keep it firmly to myself.
We have terrible issues at the moment, I dare not say or do anything.
And he irritates the fuck out of me constantly at the moment so it’s hard work. Frustrating.
Just considering the future.

God yes. I've just had a right go at mine for starting sentences with 'I'm not being funny' and then saying something that is not in the slightest bit funny so I don't need to be told. And he tells me how annoying I am all the time. I couldn't be in a relationship where I couldn't tell someone they were irritating.