I really miss him but it has not worked out. It feels painful

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I ended things a few weeks other with my now ex
We had various on going issues where nothing seemed to change
No plans for the future
Together quite a long time but no plans to move in etc
He is still - on paper - married
There are drink issues with ex
We had been together 3.5 years
My feelings weren’t acknowledged and swept under the carpet

I have not been an angel but we have tried to sort things but continual arguments / lack of affection made this feel more like a brother and sister / friendship.

I feel this is the right decision going forward however it is very hard and kind of painful like every moment feeling down and unhappy unless no preoccupied. :(

No advice but I am going through something similar (although been together 14 years with one child) he was devastated to start with and now he is just getting on with life which is hard. I’m only a couple of weeks down the line I’m hoping it gets easier

@Blossombo I feel your pain I was once married and it’s as hard every break up it is so sad 😞

No advice but just know there are lots of us in the same boat at the minute.
The pain is often so much it is unbearable.
I miss the contact, the messaging and knowing he was interested to answer my messages.
But he was also toxic to me.
It hurts but the pain will ease. We just have to ride it out and realise we deserve better.

Even when you know it’s right
It’s still ducking hurts OP

The human urge for lust , acceptance and to be wanted is a strong one