So angry, so very, very angry

[Pegsonstrings]

And it’s pointless.

I have been dealing with a relapse, neurological, which thankfully I am almost out of. But October last year my ex and I went to a local swimming pool, in the middle of my relapse, to cheer me up, but when I was changing into my clothes, butt naked I caught him where he was holding his mobile up videoing me naked. I called the police. He was arrested and last month I was told my the police that their specialist team had handed over a cd but we’re unable to find anything but are keeping the case open for further evidence.

Anyway I run around my local lake twice, maybe trice weekly and lo and behold there he is walking towards me like nothing had happened. He lives on the other side of the city and he knows my route. He use to stalk me. Everywhere, I reported it and again told to not engage with him which I have held.

My adult son is adamant that my ex evening walk was intentional. I am in two minds wether I should report him but what is the use? The police can’t do anything and I feel so under this twats thumb. So angry right now.

I would report just so they get the measure of who he is.

Who.he.is 😵 - a perverted voyeristic lunatic.

Report anyway, even if you think it won't get you anywhere (because if you don't, it definitely won't).

Maybe talk to Paladin? paladinservice.co.uk/

Plus "he used to stalk me" you say.

Please do report this to the police. The more incidents there are the clearer the picture painted.

He looked so smug and like he wanted to give me a hug, like seriously the man is derailed. I just want my life to go back to normal and he is so smug about what he has done and these men never take any responsibility. None. Just carry on being abusive to the next one. Thanks for your advice @PearlyBird

Report it

Who is he and what was he doing in the ladies changing rooms? We're there other women there?

The swimming pool has got boots you go into to change and showers are joint. And it’s so easy to take pictures there @sleepyhoglet

Thanks for the link @category12

Did you post here back then when he filmed you? Because it sounds familiar.

Definately report it again just so they have record. In future have your phone at the ready and record him if he shows up. Record it as a video and show yourself on the video too. Maybe take a newspaper sheet with the date (whenever you remember) on it so you can add that in to the video as well.

Might be wise to find a new jogging place too.

Is there anyone that could be relaying info about you back to him?

(I mean like every few days, buy a new newspaper and take a sheet with you if you go somewhere he might show. Just so you can say to the police 'see, he us STILL showing up where I am).

@Pinkbonbon yes I did. It took the ten months for the police to seek the evidence, or so I am told

Report, of course.

Report every time.

You absolutely shouldn’t have to but for your safety I’d add some difference routes into your week. Maybe run where you normally do but so you aren’t there at the same time on the same day of the week.

Thanks everyone. I just loose all rationale. I am reporting this now. But I am sure he will tell the police it’s pure coincidence

Yes report it because it builds a stronger case against him.
Change your routine if he knows it and keep your phone to hand to record if needs be. 💐 he’s obviously a great big twat

What a creep! Definitely report everything so it’s on file.

I thought so because it was such a shocking thread at the time. I'm sorry the police have been shit.

Hopefully if you report it this time and you do have to report it again, then he wont be able to use the coincidence excuse next time.

Hopefully there won't be a next time.

Look at it this way op, you've come so far from the post back then when you asked for advice on what to do. For the most part he is gone. And in hoping you are feeling much stronger. The anger is actually a good sign because it shows that you dont take any bs anymore and have weathered the storm and came out on top.

@Pinkbonbon all been reported to the police and they are thankfully taking this seriously, even if it is a coincidence.

Thanks everyone, I need to make myself a cuppa and bring myself down from my anger. You guys have no idea how amazing you are in dire need.

Keep reporting and stay safe @PegsonstringsPeg

Good for you reporting. I hope you are keeping your own documentation of incidents too - just as a back up. what a horrendous situation, glad your adult son us supportive of you.

I would report. I would also complain that the police took 10 months to seek the evidence in the video case - of course they couldn't bloody find anything

So sorry he is putting you through this @Pegsonstrings
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They’re great for advice and support.