I met a man through work (I no longer work there) and we have been speaking for several months now. He has come to my flat at least 10 times and we always have a great time. The issue is that because of the work shifts we rarely get to see each other, at most we will be lucky to spend time together once a fortnight. Due to the distance, as I no longer have a reason to do the journey, we can just meet for lunch or anything like that. So our communication is by phone. We speak a lot through the day and then there will be off days where I don’t get a reply until the next day. He works every third weekend alongside long daytime shifts in the week, so I’m lucky to speak to him once in that week. We have got very close and I enjoy his company, I would like us to progress to proper dates and staying the night eventually, but again due to the work hours we can’t match days and times. It makes me feel very upset that it could hinder any chance of a relationship forming and he is very in the mindset that we will have to work around it as opposed to changing anything in our lives to make us work. Perhaps that’s harsh of me, but I am old fashioned in that a man who wants you will do anything. I don’t want to cut my losses and move on as we have great chemistry and I do want to give us a go before giving up if it fails. I am very nervous I will put all my heart into it and get hurt because he isn’t available for some time and I am left waiting like a desperate woman. Can anyone shed some light on their experiences with this and if there is any hope of us having a relationship despite the lack of seeing each other often?