This is weird, isn’t it? Can I “ghost” him?

[Wolfie11]

A friend from my teenage years messaged me on Instagram last Saturday about a photo I posted, we exchanged a few messages and he asked for my number. I gave him it and we chatted for a while, it was nice to catch up with someone I was so friendly with back in the day (never anything more than that) but I found him a bit overbearing, like difficult to get off the phone! Since then he has become a bit weird, from Sunday morning until Thursday he has called me 17 times 🤦🏼‍♀️. I answered once or twice and then ignored the rest as I was busy and I felt a bit creeped out by it. Despite me having ignored most of these phone calls and 5 text messages, he messaged again on Thursday asking if I wanted to go and get food with him. I thought it would be a good time to try and make it clear that wasn’t going to happen so I said no but he was very persistent. I ignored him and then he sent me 8 text messages and tried to call twice. I ignored all of these but he tried to call again on Friday, Saturday and twice today!

Do I just block him and delete him, do I try and ask him nicely to leave me alone? Is that ghosting?! I’d hate to hurt his feelings but I hate how much he is calling me more! Or will he eventually just give up? I’ve 100% not given him any idea that I’d be interested, there’s been zero flirtation or anything between us. I don’t understand why anyone would think this is an okay way to act 🤦🏼‍♀️.

I’d block him you don’t owe him anything at all. His behaviour is creepy and stalkerish so no need to feel bad

You have every right and reason to block and delete. It may be one of the best decisions you ever make. You don't owe any sort of engagement or explanation.

I'd message saying you don't want to meet up and stop messaging or you will consider it harassment and report it. Then ignore any further messages.

I would definitely block him. That's very weird and makes me feel uncomfortable.

Block and delete. This is completely abnormal behaviour.

Personally I hate ghosting, thinks it's a shabby way to behave. Declining his invitation to get food isn't a stop doing this message to someone like this. I think he must have something going on to make him cling to you after one friendly walk down memory lane phone call. Maybe he's super lonely, maybe he's good serious problems of all possible kind. So in your position I'd be inclined not to leave him wondering, and to send a final message saying something like 'you must realise that bombarding someone with multiple calls and messages which are not reciprocated is unacceptable. I wish for no further contact from you at all.' and block.
However, he is behaving really oddly, so if you think this would only aggravate him then it wouldn't be unprovoked or unreasonable if you took the option to block with no further warning.

WHY ARE YOU PONDERING BEING NICE TO THIS PERSON

WHO ACTUALLY CARES

This person is an actual creep! You owe him nothing!!!

Women are not the world’s counsellors or solvers of problems, you don’t need to make him see his behaviour is excessive.

Block and move on

Block and delete. This bloke is harassing you, and making you uncomfortable. He’s not worried about your feelings, so don’t worry about his.

Block and delete. You weren't friends anymore prior to this stalkerish exchange so you don't need this in your life now.

IMO ghosting means when you're in a relationship and you disappear. You're not in a relationship with him so it's perfectly ok to block and delete.

"Stop contacting me, it's become overbearing" and block.

Then check and up your security settings on your social media.

Just in case it ever goes to the police, and it might, you need to send one very clear that you don't want any other contact of any type and it will be harassment if he doesn't stop. Then block and delete. Do not worry about his feelings, he isn't worrying about yours.

Utter creep! Block and delete. You do not owe this man any of your attention.

The problem is is that these types do not get the message even if when you make it clear you are not interested. I know, I've been there. It's not enough to be polite and keep things short, they are very persistent.

If he continues to harass after you have blocked him, log it with the police.

Gosh red flag of a control freak.. amazing as well how people change as we go through life ! I’d steer clear

Wow. He's really overstepped the mark here, you should block with no compunction. It's not ghosting, you're not a couple or even friends. If you feel hesitant about this then you could message clearly saying 'your repeated calls and messages are far too much. I want to leave this here. Please don't attempt to contact me again' that way there's no scope for him to try and follow up. I couldn't be doing with this though so don't feel at all bad.

Why are you considering his feelings at the expense of your own? He doesn't care about being nice to you

I’d hate to hurt his feelings

Why? He doesn’t give a fuck about yours and I’d bet anything that once he gets the message that it’s not going to happen, he’ll be calling you a bitch anyway. He’s a creep, who has no respect for you, you don’t owe him anything.

What a weirdo!

I’d send him one last message so it’s unquestionable saying his contact is way too much, you don’t want to meet based on the way he’s behaved and to please leave you alone.

Then block/delete him on everything and make sure all your other social media is locked down too.