I’m 48 he’s 34

[Bekindbekind]

Is this ridiculous?

We met via online dating, got chatting, really hit it off online. Met irl and it’s been great. Great chemistry, lots in common, lots of fun together.

The only thing that bothers me is the age difference. I don’t want a permanent relationship/marriage etc, so I’m not scared about him changing his mind about wanting children for example (I have some, he doesn’t.) But I do feel insecure about the age difference. I feel like I’m being silly to think that he could be attracted to me, although he clearly is. Thoughts?

@Inthesameboatatmo well knock yourself out then! I'm not sure I'd be attracted to a man who was describing women in this way but takes all sorts eh

@dickdarstedly.
Its personal preference like most things in life ,different strokes for different folks.
I will leave you to the pearl clutching dear.

Frequenting a forum dominated by young ish men and seeing the things they say about dating older women has put me off touching younger men (more than a few years) with a barge pole if they were single.

I know people will say perhaps theyre not representative, but fuck me .. even the thought they there's a teeny chance they could think that way about dating older women; no fkg way.

*If i were single.

Op you've said you.could fall in love with him; that seems like a potential heart-break if and when he moves on. Which is more likely than not when he's significantly younger and had no kids yet.

I’m the same age. I’m not dating, but honestly, 34 for a casual relationship wouldn’t concern me in the slightest.

If you had said 24, I might start worrying that there is the potential for you to have too much power in the relationship because of life experience and finances, but 34, go have fun.

At 32 I met a guy who I got on really well with, I realised he was younger so told a white lie, knocked 4 years off my age.....unbeknown to me he did the same for the same reason, added 4 years to his age. The "pretend" age gap then seemed fine. I thought it would just be a fling so saw no harm. We ended up married with three lovely sons to show for it, together 20 years. It wasn't the age gap that caused us to divorce btw, well not directly anyway. Just go with the flow OP....

I've recently matched with a guy 10 years younger than me, he seems keen, he's said it's because he doesn't really want kids but generally fancies older women. Seems nice enough, meeting up with him in the next couple of weeks. Can't really get my head around it though, maybe he just wants sex with an older woman as some sort of sexual desire or something. We'll see. I can't really understand why some of the younger men like older women when there are a lot of hot women around of their own age they might be compatible with. Who knows..