I want to go totally NC with my father. I need advice how. I've had good advice from here before about a situation so I'm here again
I don't want to go into lots of detail. I'm not going to "drip feed" later. I'm just going to pick a few salient facts for a little bit of background. Due to my father and his family, I am under a complex mental health team with severe life long MH issues as a result of things that have happened so I am sure people can understand why I don't give 'the worse' details.
So a few points about him
-hes been jailed for fraud and theft. It was very public, in the news and absolutely abhorrent the way he went about it.
-stolen money was used to pay for my school and uni fees. I was implicated in the news, I was contacted by the police and threatened with arrest if I didn't give up all my bank details to them (obviously I was oblivious to the fact the money was there and I was not to blame etc but for a young woman to be contacted and investigated in such a way at the time was very traumatic).
He blamed the reason he did these things and commited these crimes on having ptsd (undiagnosed) from an event that he witnessed eight years AFTER he had committed the fraud. Obviously the judge called him out on this and said it's literally impossible and sentenced him. He won't admit he lied to me.
-ive lost a child and the way he behaved was absolutely diabolical. My DH and I were both deeply hurt. It was at this point that I cut most contact. He's never met one of my children and I've not seen him in about 3 years. I plan to never see him again.
He is a narcissist, and a psychopath (this has been confirmed to me by my own psychiatrist. Obviously he can't diagnose someone else without seeing them but he said to me based on what I've said, he would likely agree with me that he is both of these things).
Those two things are the only things I can bring myself to mention, there are many more, worse things.
He texts me and I every so often reply with a one word answer. Usually after several weeks have passed. I sometimes never reply to something. Recently I have replied to absolutely nothing.
He has had cancer and surgery. I've replied to no messages before or after. He has just messaged me again. So he doesn't ever get the hint that I don't wish to talk. I feel that due to his own mental health and psychopath tendancies he doesn't have the ability to read into the fact I don't want a relationship, when I am making it very very obvious.
How do I sort this out?
In the past I have told him that I don't forgive what he has done and as he has never apologised to me, I never will. But nothing ever seems to register with him.
What's best to do. I really and truly would like to never hear from him again.