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Age gap_ younger man.

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Ilovegreentomatoes · 15/08/2021 11:24

What are your opinions on a 42 yr old woman dating a childless 37 yr old man?
To much of an age gap? Would a man of that age be serious with a woman of that age who already has a child?

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Ilovegreentomatoes · 15/08/2021 11:25

For context I keep reading that men go for younger women which has made me have doubts.

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CordeliasPencil · 15/08/2021 11:26

Is this a joke? It's 5 years ? Not an age gap ?!?

FreeSpirits · 15/08/2021 11:28

It's 5years? Not really a gap tbh

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Ilovegreentomatoes · 15/08/2021 11:30

But the fact he might want children?

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CordeliasPencil · 15/08/2021 11:31

@Ilovegreentomatoes

But the fact he might want children?
Well ask him then.

No one on MN has met you, or him, so how can anyone tell you if he wants children or not?!

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Ilovegreentomatoes · 15/08/2021 11:33

Well I'm glad ppl don't consider it an age gap.

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oldtimerockandroll · 15/08/2021 11:34

It's really not an age gap. There's 6 years between me and my DP.

Inthesameboatatmo · 15/08/2021 11:34

Its hardly an age gap op.
Yes men do want an older woman sometimes because of experience they bring to the table of a relationship.
I'm 42 and have a dated younger than that .
As for children just ask him what he wants from a relationship with you.
If you are comfortable enough having a sexual relationship with him .
No subject should be off the table for discussion.

traintraveller · 15/08/2021 11:41

5 years is hardly an age gap. There's 16 between me and my OH

PhilCornwall1 · 15/08/2021 11:44

That's only 5 years, it's nothing. Mrs PC is older than me by not far off that. In 25 years, it's never been an issue.

WhiskeyGalore212 · 15/08/2021 11:45

The gap is fine, it 5 years or less .. however the children issue is generally a massive one.

And a lot of men seem to say them dont want kids, only to change their mind as they get older.

What does he say he's looking for?

WhiskeyGalore212 · 15/08/2021 11:47

Would a man of that age be serious with a woman of that age who already has a child?

How do you know of he wants to be serious or not? All you can do is ask, bearing in mind that not everyone will be 100% honest especially if they seeking sex.

namechangepls5 · 15/08/2021 11:49

5 years is not a significant gap. Would you be asking if the genders were reversed?

Sakura7 · 15/08/2021 11:55

Nobody would consider this an age gap if the man was the older one. So why do women stress about a relatively small age difference?

I'm engaged to a man four and a half years younger. He was late 20s and I was early 30s when we got together. No issues at all, he's more mature than my ex who was older than me.

GreyCarpet · 15/08/2021 11:57

I had a fling with someone who was 25. I'm 46. Now thats an age gap!

I ended it because he wanted more and I found him a bit intense.

newnortherner111 · 15/08/2021 12:56

You make it sound as if the man is President of France! No age gap at all.

30degreesandmeltinghere · 15/08/2021 12:58

I met dh (31)when I was 41! We had a dc when I was 43!!
Been together nearly 9 years now.

CharlotteRose90 · 15/08/2021 12:59

It’s 5 years but you need to ask first if he wants kids. If he does it’s a non starter and you need to cut contact.

Bluntness100 · 15/08/2021 13:00

I’d really not consider that an age gap. However ask him if he wishes kids. None of us can guess the answer for you

OldEvilOwl · 17/08/2021 17:56

I'm 45. DP is 38, we both have kids though. Ask him?

ILoveCrap · 17/08/2021 19:22

It’s not an age gap and you need to ask him about kids, none of us have a crystal ball…

TheRabbitStoleMyHat · 17/08/2021 20:30

Goodness me, DH is 4 years younger (he’s 38), never have we considered it a ‘gap’.

LifesNotEnidBlyton · 17/08/2021 20:51

Pleased I'm not the only one confused about this being a "gap"! 8 - 10 years is the beginning of gap territory I'd say. Then if he wants a child or not should be something he knows at that age, so if he says he doesn't then you have to assume he doesn't. Most men don't want children into middle age so aren't thinking in their late thirties that they've got years to think about it and just keep dating around with women they dont see a future with. Some might obvisouly, but I think it's less usual for men to actually want children but to want them when they're in their forties or older. Some haven't waited through choice they just havent met the right person, so they are without but know they want them and would be trying to find a woman to have them with. So by late thirties most men will know if they do want them or not so a man that age getting together with a woman in her forties is unlikely to have a burning want for children. He might not care either way, he might have liked to but likes the woman enough he wants her more, but you'll only know by asking him and all he can do is say how he feels now and all you can do is believe him or don't.

brittleheadgirl · 17/08/2021 20:53

@Ilovegreentomatoes

What are your opinions on a 42 yr old woman dating a childless 37 yr old man? To much of an age gap? Would a man of that age be serious with a woman of that age who already has a child?
Well dh is 37 and I'm 49. 5 years is literally no age gap!
Shellady · 17/08/2021 22:45

Nearly every couple I know the man is 4-5 years older . Why do you think this is an age gap
Often people talk about men in their 40s or 50s dating ( or chasing ) women in their 20s and many people seem to think that’s no issue . So why should it be an issue the other way round ie woman being the older one
Sure he might change his mind about kids , he might not . People change their minds in relationships about all types of things . It’s the risk we ALL take when getting into a relationship
Some men might decide they want kids. Some might decide they want someone different for any number of reasons
If yoh were to go with an older man he might decide he wants someone younger as he ages , not for kids just simply because he’s an idiot that values women on their youth and what it does for his ego
If you like him. discuss it and decide if you want a relationship with him

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