my ex who lives 2 minutes away and now I am not wanting to leave the house

[Lolabray]

For fear of seeing him or someone who will start a conversation about why we split, we’re literally 800 yards away, i just want to put my house up for sale and move but I can’t. I don’t know how I am supposed to deal with this. I ended it but don’t want to see him as deep down there is love but we can’t be together for a lot of various reasons.
Tonight I managed to go for a drive ( i won’t walk locally at the moment) and go to the co op but had to take my son with me for support. I really don’t know why I feel like this

Move I did it is and remains a relief to be 300 miles away.

My son is at school locally so I can’t move his too far plus I have put a lot into my house. I don’t really want to up ship us all when we only moved 3 years ago. I think maybe the best thing is to ignore

Has he always lived there or moved recently? What are the chances you will actually see him? I very rarely even bump into my immediate neighbours!

He has always lived round here . I don’t go to the local pubs now. And yes I could ignore and go to shops further afield ..

You can't keep living like this.

Are you afraid of him?

If not, you need to start brazening it out and force yourself to behave normally. Go where you would normally go. Do what you would normally do. If anyone asks you something inappropriate, you can just walk on, you're not obliged to explain your life to anyone. If you see him, you just be briefly civil and walk on.

If you can't do that, you need to sell up.

@category12 no I’m not afraid of him. We have split due to reasons involving other people who live nearby. I fear he will be telling people I’m an awful person. Thanks for your words of encouragement.. I’m going to go for a local walk today. I do need to move past this you’re right

Lolabray - you say 'I fear he will be telling people I’m an awful person.'

If he is doing this, and they believe him rather than making their own mind up about you, do you really think these people's opinions are important, and that these people are worth having anything to do with?

charmingthebirds yes you are right. I’m not perfect in myself and have things I am working through but generally I’d consider myself a good mum colleague and friend .

I fear he will be telling people I’m an awful person

But he'd be doing that whether he lived nearby or at the other end of the country.

If you like your house and your son enjoys school then I wouldn't move, personally. I'd resolve to front it out. If you bump into him, just give him a distant smile and a nod, then walk on. If someone asks "why did you split with him?" you just say "Oh well, it's complicated. Things just didn't work out" and then silence. If they say "Oh no what happened" then you say "I don't want to discuss it you nosey twat

Please try to work on going out locally on your own - the longer you avoid it, the harder it will get. Put yourself on a routine - day 1 go out to a shop in 10 mins walk. Day 2 off. Day 3 drive to a shop on your own. Day 4 off. Day 5 go on a 20 min walk. Etc. It's basically couch to 5k but in your case couch to shops!

Please note - you mentioned other people who live locally and that's the reason you split. If the reasons are that these people are involved in drugs/gangs then I rescind everything above and would suggest moving house.

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation thanks for your reply, it is not gangs or drugs more a family friend issue if you get me