Hi MN
I’m a first time mum due very soon with someone I think is a possible narcissist and I don’t know what to do. I’ve discovered he has also lied about himself and his life. When I first found out I was expecting, we were both shocked and discussed options. I didn’t put any pressure on him to stick by me. He insisted that we live together and he’d look after me but I realise now he was future faking. He already has a son with ex wife and she wished us well. He happily shared the news with his family who he’s really close to and they welcomed me. However while living with him I noticed his behaviour became hot and cold and his lies came out . I discovered he actually had a hidden daily cannabis habit and also severe debt. His words weren’t matching with his actions towards me, he’d lie about everything. He’d make me feel crazy for bringing up my concerns. He attended the scans which made me feel he cared but then he’d go cold and not attend any emergency appointments I had to go to even if it was late at night. He would swing from he wants to be a family to this isn’t working anymore, it was all too much for him. I eventually moved out and we continued the relationship despite my friend telling me to run. Since living apart, he’s got worse with his lies and treatment towards me. He’s blown hot and cold daily, hardly given me money for things, shouted at me if I say how I feel. He’s not treated me the way he had promised and the last time he ‘dumped’ me I finally accepted it and told him I didn’t want HIM anymore. He then says I don’t mean that and he’s going to make it up to me but I can’t take it anymore. Im suffering anxiety and high blood pressure now because of him, he’s made this all hell. As I’m coming towards my due date, he says he wants to be at the birth. I’m scared and I don’t know what to do? My friend is telling me I need to cut contact and not to put him on the certificate etc.