Would you get back with someone if they did these things

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Drank with friends 3 times a week and didn’t know when to go home (caused many many arguments between us as I don’t want him ringing me or turning up drunk here)
Smoked around you when you say you don’t like it
Shout at you when your at work about an issue and not sort the issue out in the first place
Moan and complain about going to new places/ not wanting to set plans
Put your needs last or didn’t listen to you.
Lived one minute away from your home

For me I know the answer is NO he clearly needs help with his issues, he is also quite negative in his responses, I am not an angel but trying to summarise how things have been for the past year or two.

I’m not talking to him he’s blocked

I am not talking to him he’s BLOCKED :)

What has you thinking about this today?

Definitely not

The first point would be enough for me to say no. Who wants a life like that

I fully support someone getting help with their issues but I think if there’s no kids involved then the purpose of that should be to allow them to have a better relationship with a third party moving forward. For the original other partner there are still too many issues of resentment and fear it will happen again and these will have an impact. Sometimes you just need to draw a line under it and move on.

I’m doing some life coaching soon so want to have a clear head and face things we have been through, the first thing I want to address are how I have been made to feel about the issue we split up about. My self esteem is on the floor and I am fearful of leaving the house for some reason

He sounds such a catch.

Glad to hear you're getting some help to deal with everything you've been through.
Your feelings are valid no matter how they try to spin it. I can't imagine how difficult it's been for you but just know that I hear you. ❤️

Thanks. It has not been easy with all the ‘baggage’ that comes with step families on both sides. It’s easier to just be alone and focus on my children