So I just read a thread on here kind of similar to my situation I’m in now. I’ve been in a relationship with this man for nearly a year now. When we met it was instant connection, I fell really quickly for him and seemingly he did do. His child was 6 months when we met, he was never with the mother of his child. But when we met he would always be complaining about her to the point I would have to tell him we’re trying to build a new relationship.
When we made it official I said we needed to tell her he was in a relationship because it wasn’t fair to her. They would talk often because the baby was so young. Sometimes they would chat on the phone for like an hour at the time. He said he was just trying to make sure they had a good co parenting relationship. He said he promised he wouldn’t get in a relationship until the baby was one. That time has passed obviously and he still hasn’t told her. I feel like taking matters into my own hands and contacting her.
We’ve spoken about moving in together, kids, marriage everything. But he just said he thinks she will stop him seeing the baby if she knows about me. I’ve actually had enough. How do I make it clear to him it’s now or never. He’s even said stuff like he wishes he had the baby with me so I don’t think it’s a case of still having feelings. Do I contact her?