I matched with a guy on Bumble, we were talking on and off.
We live in different cities, he was previously in my city (abroad) for work but had to go back to his city (London). I cancelled a date (not really made any concrete arrangements but we had decided on a day...) but we still kept in touch. He added me on Instagram and I followed him too, until I realised at a later point that he was no longer following me (I also unfollowed him at that point...). I wasn't paying close attention to when because I wasn't super keen on getting into a relationship quickly and didn't really think about developing anything with him. He also asked for my number and we have been texting on Whatsapp including some risqué texts. I have started to develop strong feelings for him and I thought he felt the same. When I told him I would be in the UK for a week to visit family, he was texting me non-stop to arrange us to meet and I wanted to meet him too. He said he would take me on holiday with him too without making concrete plans, but he said that we would discuss when I arrived. He also said very romantic things and seemed so keen.
I got to the UK but not London (but a city a few hours train ride away) and he went silent. I texted him at one point saying it had been nice chatting and we would see each other in my city if he ever got back.
I followed up by sending a message tentatively suggesting that if I came to London would he be available and no reply. Then I sent a picture of myself in a nice dress and he immediately texted back saying that he was sorry and he had been very busy but he would text me later because he was at a dinner. I'm tempted to confront him about the silence and reluctance to meet me but I don't want to scare him off even more. He's so hot and cold but I really like him. Also I know that I blew him off at the beginning so maybe he is still cautious? Might he have a valid reason or is he uninterested and simply bored when he texts me? I really want to pursue something with him if he gets back to my city and I cant's stop thinking about him. At the same time, I wonder whether I should confront him about the situation and lay my cards on the table to say, I do like him but if he's not interested, I will understand and we can draw a line under the situation...Very grateful for any advice! Thank you