Do kids see the true colours of parents eventually?

[Mummybunny2000]

9month old DS dad is a complete tw*t… not to him but to me. He’s nasty and horrible, I wouldn’t tell my son this as he grows up. But if I’m honest I hope one day he sees what his dads really like and how disgustingly he treats me. Simply because he acts and hides behind a fake persona and I don’t want my son thinking the son shines out of his arse once he reaches teens and that mums the bad guy for having rules/ doing everything for them lol. Do kids see the parents true colours once they’re old enough?

Why are you still with him?

I'm in the same boat OP.
I have learned 2 years on that you need to let the truth be told it's own time. It's excruciating. Just stay strong and resilient. As they say "everything comes out in the wash"
Time will tell it's own tale.

@Plantsandwine I’m not with him, but I’ll be completely honest in saying the reason I did stay with him (wrongly I know) was because when we are together I don’t have the fear of having to send DS to his without me. However we aren’t together now

My 8 year old has started asking quite pointed questions. It's hard to know what to say tbh.

@MyCatIsAFuckwit
Have a look into the law of attraction, it really does work. I’m going to now take my own advice !

But thank you so much, good to know I’m not alone and oh it’s excruciating lol. The thought of being the bad guy when you know the truth just kills you doesn’t it. I’m sure everything will be fine like you said. The truth always prevails anyway

@nancybotwinbloom I think because the questions were unprompted, it’s best to be honest in an age appropriate way. It’s not like you’re bad mouthing because your DC had asked. Hugs ..

Yes I know

Hand on heart I encouraged their relationship even when I knew he took the piss but I was the bigger person because he wasn't.

He's been awful.

We do talk about it in an age appropriate way and for 8, she's very mature asking questions I should have asked of myself to be honest but in one way I hope she never sees him as he is,
because who wants a prick for a dad.

In a selfish way I want her to understand that he was a prick.