What would you do if your partner rang you at work and started shouting at you

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And text 8 times regarding an issue that could have been dealt with outside of work? That wasn’t even such an issue

I’m in a new job and this happened to me however my colleagues heard it and said are you ok, I have then had to explain what he had done, I was humiliated and embarrassed and work hard in my career and don’t want to be treated like this. Subsequently we have split me ending it due to this but this along with other things was too much.

Well done! Of course you shouldn't put up with this, no question and I'm so glad you recognised your worth and ended it.

I’d have put the phone down on them and make it crystal clear to them never to speak to me like that ever again. It’s him who has humiliated himself in front of your colleagues, hope he’s proud of himself.

I‘d do the same as you. It must have been very upsetting.

How awful! You were completely right to end things with him, good luck for the future - it’ll be so much better without him in it

Thanks for the clarification.. he is adamant he has done nothing wrong despite me telling him. So I deserve better and I’d rather be alone and at peace than put up with that drama

I would have hung up on him when he raised his voice on the phone and replied to his text with exactly what you've done: "we're over, bye".

I would have dumped him too. Shout at me either my phone or to my face and you are gone.

Well done you

I’d have hung up and blocked him. No one shouts at me. It’s not an appropriate way to communicate with anyone.

He also shouted at me when I was on the way home from work, siding with someone that he was romantically linked with, absolutely not understanding whatsoever the hurt and humiliation he has caused. Luckily I work with a few people and there weren’t loads in the office that day. My colleagues now keep asking me if I am ok. It’s embarrassing.

I'd have put the phone down. In fact, I did this a few times when my EXDP started ranting about his latest irritant, then he'd ring back to start shouting at me about why I put the phone down and how rude it was. I stopped answering the phone to him whenever I knew he was in a similar mood.

You did absolutely the right thing. Well done

I must admit during the relationshit whoops sorry relationship I have raised my voice at him because he didn’t listen and acted like an idiot and I’ve also not been the best partner but this has pushed me to the end of my tether, I know I need to do some work on myself too.

It is not embarrassing if you have ended it - just say you had no idea he was like this and have walked away, and you are actually fine now things are resolved.

Well done!!

That sounds awful. I wouldn't worry too much about your new colleagues. How long have you been together and do you live together?

My ex used to do this. I used to put the phone upside down and block the microphone so he was really shouting at himself
He never noticed

But good for you for ending it. Disgusting behaviour from him

We had been together over 3 years

And now he keeps texting me each day on what’s app, I am just deleting these and have blocked his number

And he had just text to say hope you’re keeping well. Well yes thanks to you I’ve had a mental breakdown and hardly left the house for 2 weeks. What a way to end a relationship

He’s a right little diva.

Run run run

Thank fuck you finally came to your senses and dumped this abusive arsehole. Block him entirely and never look back. To add, in 25 years my husband has never shouted at me. It's unacceptable.

Thanks all. We did, once , have a nice relationship

Well done you for giving him the boot. What an utter twat he is.

My lovely colleague ran away from her disgusting violent abusive husband, and he used to phone up our work and shout at her when she answered the phone. Eventually we stopped her answering it, and our manager told him that if he rang again, she'd call the police. Lovely colleague was terrified that he would turn up at our workplace one day.... I was hoping he absolutely would, firstly because then WE could call the police (she would never do it, even when he held a kitchen knife to her throat), and secondly because our workplace was packed with large athletic young men who weren't afraid of a dribbling little creep who abused women, and would have relished a chance to explain this to him.

Gosh that sounds awful @funnylittlefloozie I must say this is nothing in comparison but to have my integrity compromised when I’m busy at work is not happening

Tell your colleague that you will be fine, especially now that he’s an Ex. She keeps asking how you are out of concern and now that he’s an Ex you can tell her not to worry.

It sounds like ending it was long over due and you should stay single while you work out why you put up with his crap.