I am not coping with break up

[Crumpets123]

I feel so low tonight. None of my friends are available tonight for company. I am not working tomorrow or Saturday, and I have tried to make plans with friends but everyone is busy! I don't know what to do with myself, or how to keep busy.

I feel so abandoned and unwanted. I can't bare the thought of being in the house on my own for the weekend :-( I can't bare this feeling anymore. Why can't I meet someone who loves me the way I love them :-(

I feel like I want to join a meet up group or something to make new friends, but I have had a look and can't really find anything in my area! I just don't want to be alone and I just need a hug and someone to tell me it will all be okay

I feel exactly the same @Crumpets123 ! I wish we could meet and get lunch tomorrow!!

@Unhappt

I feel exactly the same *@Crumpets123* ! I wish we could meet and get lunch tomorrow!!

I'm sorry you feel the same *@unhappt* sending you a big, big hug.

I know that I have been heartbroken before and survived it, but I really thought this time I was with MY person. How could someone feel so right in so many ways, and make you feel so loved at times, but then take it all away?

I know time will help and it has only been a week, but tonight it just feels too much. I'm just sat on the sofa sobbing. I just want to get a message to say they are sorry and they can't bare to be without me either :-(

How long has it been for you @unhappt

Hugs to you both and I hope things get better

Hope you both feel better and they don't deserve either of you. Hugs.

Me too although I ended it. I’m lost

Hugs. But just because you don’t have plans doesn’t mean you have to stay in the house. You should go out and explore, you’ll feel much better when you’re out and about.

I like to go on long walks and explore a new town and I put my noise-cancelling headphones on and listen to a podcast or my favourite playlist and I just tune out the world. I can walk for hours that way. I really suggest it.

@Crumpets123 it happened the other day, I have a thread I posted. It feels like hell just now. I’ve barely eaten or been able to work today. He’s not been in touch and doubt he will be. I really thought mine was right too. I was so happy with him. I want him to call and say he’s sorry and this is all a big mistake. It’s so distressing and I am dreading the rest of the evening and then trying to sleep.

How long has it been for you? Hope you are ok.

I was thinking of driving somewhere over the weekend. I’m just so sad and low I don’t know if that will make things better or worse

@Crumpets123

Sending hugs. What can we do to cheers you up. I watch old films and bake? Then drop cakes off on my friends door steps.

Makes me happy to give a surprise when they get back x

[quote Unhappt]@Crumpets123 it happened the other day, I have a thread I posted. It feels like hell just now. I’ve barely eaten or been able to work today. He’s not been in touch and doubt he will be. I really thought mine was right too. I was so happy with him. I want him to call and say he’s sorry and this is all a big mistake. It’s so distressing and I am dreading the rest of the evening and then trying to sleep.

How long has it been for you? Hope you are ok.

I was thinking of driving somewhere over the weekend. I’m just so sad and low I don’t know if that will make things better or worse[/quote]
Aww, I haven’t seen your thread. I will look for it. It does feel like hell doesn’t it. I totally know how you feel, I was tossing and turning all night and have no appetite. I’m just trying to tell myself that I’ve felt this way before and got through it, and each day should get better even if it just by the tiniest increment. (I’m saying this trying to be all positive knowing full well I will cry myself to sleep tonight).

It all kicked off last Monday. She left last Tuesday - came back Sunday telling me she didn’t want to break up, but then left again 2 days later saying she doesn’t know what she wants, so it has been so hot and cold.

How has your evening been so far? We can support each other through this @Unhappt

Driving somewhere sounds good! I think anything to get out of the house is a good idea, everything feels so much worse when I’m indoors. I just went for a short walk which felt nice, and then as soon as I got home just the emptiness of the house feels like it is suffocating me

[quote Justa47]@Crumpets123

Sending hugs. What can we do to cheers you up. I watch old films and bake? Then drop cakes off on my friends door steps.

Makes me happy to give a surprise when they get back x[/quote]
@Justa47 awww that’s really nice. Lovely idea

It's a horrible time, going through a breakup. When you get through this weekend without big plans with your friends you'll be able to do it again and again and it'll get easier
I've been there, no eating, no sleeping, adrenaline fueling the body and not being able to concentrate on anything. If it weren't a time we were so consumed with emotion it would be the most productive time of life.

I found exercise helped me a lot. Mentally and physically. A good clear out of the house done wonders, passed time and felt good having everything organised. Anything that can distract you, go for it.

Can you tag along with your friends' plans? Maybe if they knew how you were feeling they'd be more accommodating. People usually like to help

@Peach01

It's a horrible time, going through a breakup. When you get through this weekend without big plans with your friends you'll be able to do it again and again and it'll get easier I've been there, no eating, no sleeping, adrenaline fueling the body and not being able to concentrate on anything. If it weren't a time we were so consumed with emotion it would be the most productive time of life.

I found exercise helped me a lot. Mentally and physically. A good clear out of the house done wonders, passed time and felt good having everything organised. Anything that can distract you, go for it.

Thank you @Peach01 having a good clear out and organising sounds like a great idea! I think I might buy a lovely new duvet set - I think that will make the bed feel nicer and "different" if that makes sense.

I definitely need to force myself to the gym - that feels like a bit of a chore at the moment, but I know i will feel better for it.

I've managed to plan a walk with a friend today at lunchtime so that will help to break up the day.

@unhappt how are you feeling this morning? Xx