Help getting over him

[Appleofmyeye05]

So I’m feeling like a silly school girl writing this but I actually need some substantial advice as it’s holding my love life up.

Me and a guy who I know have always had a bit of a thing for each other and on several occasions we have ended up in bed together.

There is a mutual attraction if we keep ending up in bed together but I know deep down that is all it will ever be and obviously I want more for myself than that so I have been resisting him. But I just can’t seem to get over him.

I don’t know why, I don’t know what it is, I don’t know if it’s because I know I can’t have him that makes me lust after him so much. I don’t think he sees or would ever see a future with us more than the relationship we currently have, which is fine.

I do however want to move on with my love life and meet someone and get into a relationship but I find myself on OLD sites and not being interested in anyone and finding myself comparing them to this guy.

Can anyone help me snap out of this silly trance 😂😂

We’ve not spoken for maybe 2 months and he’s text me today and I just can’t stop thinking about him and I don’t hate myself for being like this but I just wish I didn’t allow him to get into my head so easily!

Oh Lord. I really hope you either ignored the text or told him you were busy.

You know the only real way to get over him is to meet someone else, someone who isn't just using you for sex, so call a friend and go out with her instead of him. It will do you much more good

I did ignore!

Time. Once more time passes you'll be open to meeting someone and you'll have something more meaningful than the occasional sex meet up.
He isn't giving you anything and he'll text now and again to keep to there. Don't sleep with him again and don't respond. He's holding you back.

I remember back in the day 👵🏼 that there were one or two men who I was just ridiculously attracted to abs they to me. Even though we both knew we were never going to be a couple. I have no idea what causes that level of mutual sexual attraction when you both know you aren't suited as a couple. It's not really a problem unless one person finds it hard to develop a real relationship with a suitable person like you are finding. No one is using anyone. I don't think he's being bad. You just both have a crazy attraction to each other but as it is getting in your way, best to just stay away. You can even be honest and tell him that you are finding the level of attraction is affecting your ability to move on with anyone permanent so you want to keep your distance. Just be adults.

Thank you guys.

I haven’t responded to him and I haven’t thought about him as much since I posted this but he’s been popping up now and then.

Defo right about the time, but I fear the longer we go without seeing each other the more he will blow my mind when we inevitably bump into each other (he drinks in the same pub as my dad and I occasionally go there but I haven’t been recently for this very reason).

I don’t think I would ever tell him how I feel as I did say to him before that I was resisting him and I wanted something more sustainable and he chased me like bad and we ended up having a meet so I think it’s better left unsaid, for my benefit more than his.