Cheating husband

[Misspink21]

I apologise in advance for the long post!

I had a breakdown last year and choose to go back on my medicine for the first time in years. My husband struggled but was supportive. Things were going really well again but then he cheated on me with my only and best friend. At 1st I tried to deal with it and move on especially because of lock down and us living together. But then I asked for space and asked him to move out and he said I should be with someone else to make it even so it might be easier for me to forgive me. At 1st I didn’t agree but then I did it and enjoyed it more then I thought I would. Now I don’t know what to do I love my husband but things aren’t the same. I am angry at him for cheating. All these terrible feelings and angry towards him for me having to give so much up to be with him and only now realising. Additionally I am Australian living in England so have no one really and I can never move home because he has a criminal recored and is not allowed in Australia.

Sorry this long I could keep going as I have so much stuck in my head I just feel like every decision is the wrong one.

I want to be with him but also don't and have no one to speak to about this hence am looking for any advice please!

Move back without him?

If you can't forgive him, and you had a good time when you had space away from him (not clear whether you had a relationship with someone else in the break up time) then I'd just move back home to Australia assuming you have a support network there. Leave him here in the UK and good riddance to him and your so called best friend!

You don't want to be with him, he is a prick.
You would be all kinds of free without him, not only would you be free of a disgusting man who cheated with your so called best friend but you'd also be able to go home.
Why would you want to stay in this godforsaken cold place post Brexit/Covid with a cheating prick when you could go home to the sunshine and start a new life.
You know it makes sense. He will only do it again.

End your marriage and move home without him.

This relationship is not good for you. I'd move back to Oz, safe in the knowledge he can't follow you.

A criminal record AND cheated on you with your best friend? Sounds like a peach.
To be honest though, you sleeping with someone else (I think that's what you were saying) to make it "even" is also ridiculous so I think you are going to be happier without each other.

@GalaxyGirl24

If you can't forgive him, and you had a good time when you had space away from him (not clear whether you had a relationship with someone else in the break up time) then I'd just move back home to Australia assuming you have a support network there. Leave him here in the UK and good riddance to him and your so called best friend!

I never had relationship with anyone but I did sleep with two guys. I thought it would help me forgive me and it was his idea. But now my head is even more a mess!

And definitely move back to Oz without him.

Well isn't he a prince amongst men? A criminal record and a cheat.

Start a new life without him, Op. You deserve better.

@Sunshineandflipflops

A criminal record AND cheated on you with your best friend? Sounds like a peach. To be honest though, you sleeping with someone else (I think that's what you were saying) to make it "even" is also ridiculous so I think you are going to be happier without each other.

You are right me sleeping with someone to get "even" is ridiculous and in some ways I wish I never did but I did. Things were so good between b4 he cheated I was just hoping it would make me less angry with and I wanted nothing more than to fix us. I still do but don't know how to.

What a farce. Move back to your home country and discard your dirty, criminal husband. There’s nothing to hang around for.